What We Practice Grows Stronger

What We Practice Grows Stronger

Choosing a simpler or slower life, an intentional life, can feel like hard slogging at the start. It means going against the grain, forming new habits and mindsets, choosing to practice patience when the process takes time. Picking ourselves up over and over again when we fall off the proverbial wagon. I call myself a recovering perfectionist and live with a mighty opinionated inner critic. She likes to follow me around all day nagging and pointing out all the ways I fail to measure up – to both your standards […]

Your Life in Progress: Learning to Love Groups

Your Life in Progress: Learning to Love Groups

Learning (Slowly) to Love Groups is a guest post in a series called “Your Life in Progress.” In this series we hear from other women like you and I – women who are learning to love and care for themselves well. They are taking risks, making mistakes, trying new things and letting others go, sometimes struggling, but ultimately pursuing simple lives of purpose, health & JOY. When it comes to self-care and making my journey through life, I’ve done a decent job of finding mentors and carving out time for myself. What I’ve struggled with, though, […]

Fake It Till You Make It: Your Life Matters

Fake It Till You Make It: Your Life Matters

It’s easy to look around and tell ourselves the story that everyone else is happy, thriving, confident. But no matter our age or stage in life, we carry insecurities and walk through seasons of pain. We learn as we go. We come up to crossroads where we must make the decision to live again. Or try again. Or reach out again. We fake it till we make it. Adventure awaits, but what if I don’t have what it takes? The world is brimming with interesting possibility, but what if I’m […]

Don’t Try So Hard; Just Enjoy Yourself

Don’t Try So Hard; Just Enjoy Yourself

My husband doesn’t actually like movies but sometimes I convince him to watch with me, snuggled together in bed or on the couch. He likes the snuggling part. I try to choose movies that might pique his interest; this generally involves a story related to sports. And while I don’t actually like sports, I do love watching the evolution of a character. A good character driven plot. My husband grew up in West Africa without toys or books or craft supplies – all the things we deem necessary to raising […]

We Can Run But We Can’t Hide

We Can Run But We Can’t Hide

The winding drive back into the Peace valley is beautiful. I have to keep my eyes on the lane ahead of me and the construction that takes up part of the narrow winding road, though, so I am unable to fully take in the view or look over, across the river that cuts through the town, to try and spot the ski lift that marked part of my chilly junior high years. I ran quick from this place. First at 16 then, for good, at 17. It felt too small […]

Just Show Up

Just Show Up

Lately I’ve been feeling insecure and unsettled. Since writing about being back in the valley again I’ve definitely been feeling better but still not walking light and easy. I feel like I keep making mistakes, or one little life issue after another keeps stealing my peace. And I have to march over to enemy territory and take it right back again. Instead of giving up or falling apart or throwing a tantrum I just show up. I start my day by expressing gratitude like always and remind myself that perfection […]

Flânerie: the Benefits of Aimless Idle Behavior

Flânerie: the Benefits of Aimless Idle Behavior

  I propose that periods of aimless idle behavior or flânerie, are necessary for a life of purpose. flâ·ne·rie ˌflän(ə)ˈrē/ noun aimless idle behavior. We cannot go full steam forever. We cannot endlessly produce with joy without time to slow and notice and absorb from our surroundings. We cannot consistently serve others without periods of being nourished ourselves. I am a fan of regular, luscious bouts of purposeful aimless idle behavior. Words make me happy and I first came across the word flânerie several years ago and tucked it into […]

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

I have been crying a lot these past days. I haven’t been quite feeling myself all year. It started with me giving up one of my last crutches. Wine took the edge off my anxiety and allowed me to feel more at ease in social situations, including family gatherings. After giving up wine, my weight started creeping up consistently. My anxiety started amping up months ago and then rose to a place it hadn’t been in years. A very uncomfortable place. I persisted with all the quality mood-supporting nutrition and supplements and the mindset […]