The Road to HAPPY Begins With Improv

The Road to HAPPY Begins With Improv

I read somewhere that improv is the freedom and space to hear things. That stopped me in my tracks for a little bit. Isn’t that something we all want or at least need? Freedom and space to hear things? It got me reflecting on how much of my life has been all about controlling, managing, planning; doing my best to erect impenetrable walls of security around me and my family, believing that when I finally got things under control I would feel safe. Happy. I didn’t know that trying to […]

Hope Is The Thing With Feathers

Hope Is The Thing With Feathers

The day was bright and clear. I sat in my little living room, chair pulled up close to the big picture window shaded by the Mountain Ash tree, heavy laden with orange berries. The sun flitted and sparkled as it pushed its way through the branches, spilling wavy patterns over my lap and onto the wooden floor. My mom sat across from me on the couch. She was dying. Except in that moment, we still believed there was a chance. I’d always struggled with anxiety but when my mom was diagnosed […]

Pursuing Simplicity Isn’t Always Easy But It Is Worth It

Pursuing Simplicity Isn’t Always Easy But It Is Worth It

Experience tells me kids show us who they are from a very young age. I never woke up one day as an adult and decided that I wanted a slow and simple life; pursuing simplicity was a natural part of my hardwiring from childhood. I don’t think there’s one right way to do life and my pursuit of simplicity may very well look profoundly different from yours. This is part of the joy of crafting a purposeful life; you don’t have to wear anyone else’s labels. And it is so […]

What We Practice Grows Stronger

What We Practice Grows Stronger

Choosing a simpler or slower life, an intentional life, can feel like hard slogging at the start. It means going against the grain, forming new habits and mindsets, choosing to practice patience when the process takes time. Picking ourselves up over and over again when we fall off the proverbial wagon. I call myself a recovering perfectionist and live with a mighty opinionated inner critic. She likes to follow me around all day nagging and pointing out all the ways I fail to measure up – to both your standards […]

Fake It Till You Make It: Your Life Matters

Fake It Till You Make It: Your Life Matters

It’s easy to look around and tell ourselves the story that everyone else is happy, thriving, confident. But no matter our age or stage in life, we carry insecurities and walk through seasons of pain. We learn as we go. We come up to crossroads where we must make the decision to live again. Or try again. Or reach out again. We fake it till we make it. Adventure awaits, but what if I don’t have what it takes? The world is brimming with interesting possibility, but what if I’m […]

Don’t Try So Hard; Just Enjoy Yourself

Don’t Try So Hard; Just Enjoy Yourself

My husband doesn’t actually like movies but sometimes I convince him to watch with me, snuggled together in bed or on the couch. He likes the snuggling part. I try to choose movies that might pique his interest; this generally involves a story related to sports. And while I don’t actually like sports, I do love watching the evolution of a character. A good character driven plot. My husband grew up in West Africa without toys or books or craft supplies – all the things we deem necessary to raising […]

We Can Run But We Can’t Hide

We Can Run But We Can’t Hide

The winding drive back into the Peace valley is beautiful. I have to keep my eyes on the lane ahead of me and the construction that takes up part of the narrow winding road, though, so I am unable to fully take in the view or look over, across the river that cuts through the town, to try and spot the ski lift that marked part of my chilly junior high years. I ran quick from this place. First at 16 then, for good, at 17. It felt too small […]

Just Show Up

Just Show Up

Lately, I’ve been feeling insecure and unsettled. Since writing about being back in the valley again I’ve definitely been feeling better but still not walking light and easy. I feel like I keep making mistakes, or one little life issue after another keeps stealing my peace. And I have to march over to enemy territory and take it right back again. Instead of giving up or falling apart or throwing a tantrum I just show up. I start my day by expressing gratitude like always and remind myself that perfection […]