Just Show Up

Just Show Up

Lately I’ve been feeling insecure and unsettled. Since writing about being back in the valley again I’ve definitely been feeling better but still not walking light and easy. I feel like I keep making mistakes, or one little life issue after another keeps stealing my peace. And I have to march over to enemy territory and take it right back again. Instead of giving up or falling apart or throwing a tantrum I just show up. I start my day by expressing gratitude like always and remind myself that perfection […]

Flânerie: the Benefits of Aimless Idle Behavior

Flânerie: the Benefits of Aimless Idle Behavior

I propose that periods of aimless idle behavior or flânerie, are necessary for a life of purpose. flâ·ne·rie ˌflän(ə)ˈrē/ noun aimless idle behavior. We cannot go full steam forever. We cannot endlessly produce with joy without time to slow and notice and absorb from our surroundings. We cannot consistently serve others without periods of being nourished ourselves. I am a fan of regular, luscious bouts of purposeful aimless idle behavior. Words make me happy and I first came across the word flânerie several years ago and tucked it into the […]

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

I have been crying a lot these past days. I haven’t been quite feeling myself all year. It started with me giving up one of my last crutches. Wine took the edge off my anxiety and allowed me to feel more at ease in social situations, including family gatherings. After giving up wine, my weight started creeping up consistently. My anxiety started amping up months ago and then rose to a place it hadn’t been in years. A very uncomfortable place. I persisted with all the quality mood-supporting nutrition and supplements and the mindset […]

Finding Space for my Soul to Rest

Finding Space for my Soul to Rest

She reaches her hand out to me several times as we watch together, needing a touch of comfort. The film is based on the true story of young Ugandan girl who becomes a chess champion in the middle of poverty and struggle. “It hurts so much,” my 11 year old says and I understand. She is not seeing the one who overcame but the many still mired in pain, poverty, hopelessness. I suspect my youngest daughter might be a highly sensitive soul just like her mama. According to Heather Dominick*, […]

Learning to Listen for a Life of Purpose, Health & JOY

Learning to Listen for a Life of Purpose, Health & JOY

I knew within two weeks of meeting my husband in Québec that I would marry him. It was not a logical choice – he was a Francophone on a student visa from West Africa and didn’t speak any English; I spoke limited high school French. He was a carnivorous athlete; I a vegan book lover – about as unathletic as they come. But there was an unshakeable, unmistakable knowing within me. We married a year later and this summer will mark 23 years of sharing an imperfect but beautiful life together. Maybe the right choice cannot […]

Not All Who Wander Are Lost

Not All Who Wander Are Lost

My grandma had just died in the seven months before so when I moved into my grandpa’s home to live as I attended college, her fingerprints were everywhere. Jars of legumes lined the kitchen shelves, nestled in with a collection of well-worn cookbooks. Lists in her pretty script detailed the contents of the upright freezer. Row upon row of historical fiction waited for me in her library; many of these became my friends over the next year and a half. A small closet downstairs held gallon jars of dried rose petals from the gardens that she […]

Your Life in Progress: Self-Care Through Life’s Transitions

Your Life in Progress: Self-Care Through Life’s Transitions

Self Care Through Life’s Transitions is part of a series called “Your Life in Progress.” In this series we hear from other women like you and I – women who are learning to love and care for themselves well. They are taking risks, making mistakes, trying new things and letting others go, sometimes struggling, but ultimately pursuing beautiful, gentle lives of purpose, health & JOY. Ever since I was a young child, I have been a morning person. I am not sure if it was because my parents were night owls or if it was due […]

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

I have allowed fear to shackle me in many ways over my 45 years. But I am grateful for this stubbornness within me, a fire passed along from my mama I think, that has propelled me to slowly, sometimes painfully, forge ahead; which calls me push back against status quo, through fear, into possibility. It is hard to live a simple but purposeful life unless we learn to challenge fear. I had a guest post lined up for today but I had this gut sense that some of you – even one of you – need to […]