All or Something

All or Something

I’ve come to the conclusion that my message can be summed up in three simple phrases: You’re imperfect; Life is messy; Show up anyway. (I want to help you figure out how!) I love the clarity and simplicity of this. I care about each of us deciding to fight or crawl or question our way to freedom. Making peace with the messy truth that we are imperfect and gifted. That we struggle but we are not a failure. We bumble our way through life but we are worthy of compassion. Life […]

Fear Is Not Our Enemy

Fear Is Not Our Enemy

I woke up crying again last night. I dreamed that I was pregnant with my fourth child at the same time that I learned my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I would have to let her go – again. In the 15 years since she left, I’ve dreamed of saying a heart-wrenching goodbye to her countless times. No matter how many versions of this I go through, I’m never ready. I sob and wake up hurting. There’s no point trying to fall back asleep after a dream like this so […]

10 Questions to End the Year On Purpose

10 Questions to End the Year On Purpose

The unexamined life is not worth living, but the unlived life is not worth examining. Andrew Klavan Sometimes I wake up with thoughts or questions circling through my heart & mind. “What do you want?” I asked myself over and over one morning as I went through my morning routine. This isn’t exactly uncommon for me; I want to be sure to live my life on purpose. We can often articulate what we don’t want from life but we don’t always know what it is that we do want. Or maybe […]

Contemplations on the Meaning of Christmas – From a Single, Working Mom

Contemplations on the Meaning of Christmas – From a Single, Working Mom

This is a guest post from Andrea Birk-Telford It came without ribbons. It came without tags. It came without packages, boxes or bags. And he puzzled and puzzled ’till his puzzler was sore. Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before. What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more. I watched How the Grinch Stole Christmas with my children the other day and it struck me how relevant this quote from a book written 60 years ago still […]

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

At 18 I decided to live. At 33 I decided to love myself. At 46 I decided to enjoy the journey. Deciding to live isn’t just about no more suicide attempts. It’s not just about getting free of addictive or numbing behavior. Deciding to live is also about showing up each day awake and aware, willing to taste what comes your way: the joy, the anxiety, the exasperation, the delight; the wins, the struggle, the sunshine, and long nights. It means slowing down and noticing the gifts of each ordinary […]

Love Comes Packaged in Many Shapes and Sizes

Love Comes Packaged in Many Shapes and Sizes

This is a guest post by Sophia Apostal of sophiaapostol.com 8 years, 7 moves, and 2 divorces, and she’s always by my side. Trips to countless beaches, hikes on sun-dappled trails, canoeing in provincial parks, and road-tripping all over Ontario. Each morning we wake up together, she curled in a ball beside me and me on my side with one hand on her back. She sits patiently for me to brush & floss but comes running into the bedroom when I start to get dressed. As her nose sniffs the pants […]

Living Slow and Simple On a Meandering Path

Living Slow and Simple On a Meandering Path

I’m hard-wired for slow and simple. Partly by nature, partly for self-protection – this is how I’ve known to survive with a highly sensitive spirit and a tendency toward anxiety – I’ve made conscious decisions from childhood to guard white space in my life and keep things simple. I’ve chosen a slow path. This is not to say that I’ve never fallen into the trap of perfectionism, performance or people-pleasing, nor that my life has been without seasons of struggle where I felt so far beyond overwhelmed that I couldn’t […]

How To Be Still When The World is Spinning Wildly

How To Be Still When The World is Spinning Wildly

Before my eyes fully open, I feel the call to hurry. The whisper of not enough time, too far behind, how will I ever keep up. I hide under the covers a while longer, procrastinating, ruminating, unwilling to spend another day spinning wildly like the frenetic, unhappy, world around me. I want to be still. Lying in bed, I remind myself of the truth that I can choose my own thoughts and how to move through the world. I take responsibility for what I can and sometimes this means ignoring […]