The unexamined life is not worth living, but the unlived life is not worth examining.
Sometimes I wake up with thoughts or questions circling through my heart & mind.
“What do you want?” I asked myself over and over one morning as I went through my morning routine. This isn’t exactly uncommon for me; I want to be sure to live my life on purpose.
We can often articulate what we don’t want from life but we don’t always know what it is that we do want. Or maybe we know we want to live with purpose but that sounds scary and vague and way too big.
We only see the two steps in front of us so we don’t step out at all.
But scary or not, change does come. We grow and heal and become. We learn to trust the journey, make small adjustments to our direction, and if we don’t quit we end up somewhere good. Maybe not where we expected, exactly. But good.
We gain more clarity about what we want and what we’re good at as we step out, not before. We make mistakes but learn that our imperfection does not exclude us from a beautiful life or beautiful relationships. But we only find those when we choose growth, when we choose to do the messy work – to peel and prune and chop away everything that no longer serves.
Like the lies we’ve believed about our worth. Unforgiveness. Bitterness. Addiction, mean self-talk, isolation. Trying to keep up or make others like you, not dealing with the deeper truth that you still don’t like yourself.
If you want to spend some time getting clear on what you want and ditching the rest, I’ve got some questions that can help. Give yourself at least an hour to settle in and journal out the answers and see what comes up for you.
I also highly recommend signing up below for my Surviving to Thriving Worksheet Set which was designed to help you ditch the distractions and live on purpose.
10 QUESTIONS TO END THE YEAR ON PURPOSE
1. What do you want?
2. How do you want to feel?
3. How do you want to make others feel?
4. How are you using your gifts in the world?
5. Where are you stuck?
6. What do you need to let go of?
7. What life-giving habit do you want to add in to your life?
8. Are you spending time with growth-minded people?
9. Do you need help?
10. Are you ready for change?
We’re all on this journey together and no one has it all figured out. But as we come to the end of another year, we can start laying aside the distractions and ask ourselves some questions about what we truly want and who we choose to be so that we end the year on purpose.
And then we step out.
Just one small but purposeful step at a time.