For Valentine’s Day This Year Give Yourself The Gift of Discomfort

For Valentine’s Day This Year Give Yourself The Gift of Discomfort

We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time. ― Brené Brown, Rising Strong I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. It feels like one more arbitrary, commercialized holiday designed to make people either jump through hoops or feel like something essential is wrong with them and their life. Maybe I’m just not a romantic. But if you can’t imagine opting out, then what if for Valentine’s this year you give yourself the gift of discomfort? What if, you make peace with […]

What If My Small Dreams Are My Greatness?

What If My Small Dreams Are My Greatness?

This is a guest post from Genevieve V. Georget of gengeorget.com “You’re dreams aren’t big enough.” Those were the words. Those were the words that came at me from across the couch and shattered my heart. I was in another country at the time.  In another time zone.  In what felt like another Universe.  I had stepped outside the comfort zone of my quaint little neighborhood in suburban Ottawa and bought a last minute ticket to attend a creativity conference 4,500 kilometers away. Upon landing, I somehow found myself sitting […]

Change Comes Softly

Change Comes Softly

Change comes softly. We gathered in the hospital room, taking our turns at his side. Whispering goodbyes that were wholly insufficient. And then he was gone. But it had been a year and a half of prognosis and treatment, of driving back and forth never knowing if this time would be the last I got to sit with him, hoping and needing to somehow absorb every last bit of life wisdom he had to spare. Before he left. There was not enough time and more than we were initially given. […]

All or Something

All or Something

I’ve come to the conclusion that my message can be summed up in three simple phrases: You’re imperfect; Life is messy; Show up anyway. (I want to help you figure out how!) I love the clarity and simplicity of this. I care about each of us deciding to fight or crawl or question our way to freedom. Making peace with the messy truth that we are imperfect and gifted. That we struggle but we are not a failure. We bumble our way through life but we are worthy of compassion. Life […]

Fear Is Not The Enemy

Fear Is Not The Enemy

I woke up crying again last night. I dreamed that I was pregnant with my fourth child at the same time that I learned my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I would have to let her go – again. In the 15 years since she left, I’ve dreamed of saying a heart-wrenching goodbye to her countless times. No matter how many versions of this I go through, I’m never ready. I sob and wake up hurting. There’s no point trying to fall back asleep after a dream like this so […]

10 Questions to End the Year On Purpose

10 Questions to End the Year On Purpose

The unexamined life is not worth living, but the unlived life is not worth examining. Andrew Klavan Sometimes I wake up with thoughts or questions circling through my heart & mind. “What do you want?” I asked myself over and over one morning as I went through my morning routine. This isn’t exactly uncommon for me; I want to be sure to live my life on purpose. We can often articulate what we don’t want from life but we don’t always know what it is that we do want. Or maybe […]

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

At 18 I decided to live. At 33 I decided to love myself. At 46 I decided to enjoy the journey. Deciding to live isn’t just about no more suicide attempts. It’s not just about getting free of addictive or numbing behavior. Deciding to live is also about showing up each day awake and aware, willing to taste what comes your way: the joy, the anxiety, the exasperation, the delight; the wins, the struggle, the sunshine, and long nights. It means slowing down and noticing the gifts of each ordinary […]

Love Comes Packaged in Many Shapes and Sizes

Love Comes Packaged in Many Shapes and Sizes

This is a guest post by Sophia Apostal of sophiaapostol.com 8 years, 7 moves, and 2 divorces, and she’s always by my side. Trips to countless beaches, hikes on sun-dappled trails, canoeing in provincial parks, and road-tripping all over Ontario. Each morning we wake up together, she curled in a ball beside me and me on my side with one hand on her back. She sits patiently for me to brush & floss but comes running into the bedroom when I start to get dressed. As her nose sniffs the pants […]