Welcome. All of you is welcome here.
I love that you took The Hope Map assessment and feel open to further exploration of how to continue your journey to wholeness and greater freedom. If you’re here, you may have been following me and my work for a while and you’re feeling ready for what’s next. Or you may be feeling weary and in need of brave community and deeper support to help you keep going.
brave and (mostly) confident: check in with yourself mind-emotion-body as you read through the following descriptions
You may see yourself in some of the following. Some clients see themselves clearly in one of these spaces while others notice that they’re a blend of two. Consider spending an hour journaling what you notice mind-emotion-body when you read through these descriptions. What feels true (where does that show up in your body), what do you resist, are there specific emotions rising up asking to be heard?
What kind of support or community do you need and want as you move forward (we all need support): it could be that your friend circle needs examination (not everyone deserves space in your inner circle), perhaps you’re ready for trauma therapy, parts work, grief support, or private coaching in order to step into the next season of your life in freedom. Or maybe you simply need to invest more energy into cultivating the beautiful relationships that are already part of your full, meaningful life.
You’re going deep, experiencing radical growth, and becoming your own best friend
You’re living awake and engaged, practicing self-compassion and learning to honour your wiring. Conscious simplicity. You’re refining your voice and vision and practicing conscious simplicity. You feel more empowered and you’re building a sense of agency. You have deep roots of self-awareness and self-compassion. You understand your story and are clear on your values and who you choose to be. You done work to feel mind-emotion-body healthy but recognize there is still more work to do.
You’re going deeper not wider, releasing what no longer serves. You might be experiencing radical/powerful growth/becoming/healing, you’re less shame and ego driven, and you’ve been growing your emotional intelligence. You’ve been holding on to some unhealthy relationships and it’s time to let go. You have a full life and some meaningful relationships but you’re ready to engage in deeper work and you need brave community to model growth and showing up bravely to life in every season. You may be in a significant life transition: you’ve come to the end of one story and need guidance as you step into what’s next.
You are clear on what enough looks/sounds/feels like for you in each season. You may circle back here for a season if you go through crisis, trauma, or profound loss. You’re not going backwards, but deeper into growth. The skills you’ve developed hold you fast so that you tilt but do not break. You know how to ask for and receive help. You’re happy much of the time, even when circumstances are challenging. You’re confident you’re on the right path.
You’re walking in freedom and confidence and have come home to yourself
You are living brave, whole, and on purpose. Your life is imperfect (because that’s real life!) but it is intentional, values-aligned, and feels like home. You practice Seasonal living, make space for purposeful rest. Space for the beauty and wisdom in every season.
You are the expert on your own life. You like and love yourself well. You look inward for direction more often than outward. You live with less fear about the ups and downs of life; with peace about the messiness of life. You recognize your strength and resilience. You look back proud and amazed at how far you’ve come. You offer your gifts. You celebrate with others in their success and joy and sit with them in their sorrow without bypassing, advice-giving, or trying to fix.
You look ahead at what’s next and to set your course but then pull your mind and heart back to today. You feel safe and at home in your body and your life, good in the skin you’re in. You live with balanced awareness and deep roots. You give yourself permission for rest, play, pleasure AND doing hard things. You both benefit from and contribute meaningfully to healthy community. Life is always messy and offers up new challenges and invitations to growth. You feel fully alive.
You’re rested, resourced, and ready to continue the journey
You’re growing into your inner wise woman. You’re a role model, an agent of change, you hold the door and pave the way for those behind you. You lift up others when they stumble and model dignity and grace. You know your worth and have a healthy system for support and connection in place. You’re learning to trust your inner direction. You turn your heart and gaze toward what’s next, calm, rooted, a little nervous. It too will be good.
say yes to a full, awakened life
Growth or becoming our most honest and healthy selves is more circular than linear and there is no one-size-fits-all, clear cut road map to wholeness, purpose, and joy for every human. Each new season of life invites us to journey deeper, to stay open to joyful possibility and learn to sit with discomfort and uncertainty, to build upon the scaffolding of yesterday, to make new connections and increase in wisdom and understanding.
And yet, pausing to check-in and notice our growth or how far we’ve come instills a sense of pride, it offers evidence that we are capable of doing hard things, and of the power of one intentional step or breath or conscious choice after another. It deepens our commitment to the work when life feels hard and we want to quit.
At this stage of the journey I recommend focusing on:
- Reclaiming your voice and agency.
- Committing to deeper, soul-stretching work of learning to write a new story for your life.
- Learning to feel safe, at home, and joyful in your body and your life.
two free resources to explore when you’re “brave and mostly confident”
When you signed up to take the Hope Map Assessment you also received a welcome email that included a link and password for the resource library. I recommend you head there and take your time working through the following resources:
1.The Feel More Empowered Workshop: get to know or (befriend) your nervous system patterns and shift from stressed or stuck to curious and more empowered.
2. Slowing Downward: Slowing Downward is a term I encountered in Michael Mead’s Why the World Doesn’t End: Tales
of Renewal in Times of Loss. Slowing downwards “means growing down towards the roots of one’s being. Instead of outward growth and upward climb, life at times must turn inward and downward in order to grow in other ways. This handout includes quotes and reflection questions for you to work through.