What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if I all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between. Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that? The world is such a noisy place. Loud, haranguing voices lecturing me to hustle, to improve, build, strive, yearn, acquire, compete, and grasp for more. For bigger and better. Sacrifice sleep for productivity. Strive for excellence. Go big or go home. Have a huge impact in the world. Make your life count. But what if I just don’t have […]

3 Tips for Calmer Relationships

3 Tips for Calmer Relationships

Quality relationships take work. Marriages where partners are unwilling to mature and learn new ways of communicating will have a hard time thriving or even surviving. We may find that we can boss compliant kids around when they are little (not recommending this) but as they grow up these old patterns of communicating or relating need to go if we desire healthy, mutually respectful relationships. Even in our best and easiest friendships there may come a time when feelings get hurt or we need to work through an emotionally-charged issue. So relationships (especially […]

When You Get Off Track Get Back to Basics

When You Get Off Track Get Back to Basics

Maybe you’ve had a few sleepless nights, or job layoffs all around you are stressing you out, or your work-family-rest balance has evaporated into thin air, and you find yourself cranky, anxious or tired out. You are not feeling how you want to but this isn’t the time for a dig-deep life overhaul. Get back to basics. Sometimes all we need is to return to a set of tried-and-true ‘rules’ that support us in feeling clearer, emotionally calmer, and more energized.   But we also need to track these behaviours for a […]

When Your Brain isn’t Working Properly and How to Eat Your Way Out of the Fog

When Your Brain isn’t Working Properly and How to Eat Your Way Out of the Fog

My third pregnancy was challenging in many ways- I knew I was depleted nutritionally and emotionally. About two months following the birth of our youngest daughter I crashed. My pregnancy weight wouldn’t shift, I was forgetting to pay bills (unheard of for me) and often I would think one thing but a totally different word would come out of my mouth; it became quite frightening. I had zero energy and felt like I was living in a deep fog. I was also doing a lot of crying and yelling and my hands were […]

I Wanted to Die: An Exploration of my Journey Through Depression

I Wanted to Die: An Exploration of my Journey Through Depression

I tried to kill myself three times between the ages of fourteen and eighteen. Nothing horrible had happened to me. My parents loved me and I was safe and provided for. But I didn’t want to exist – I didn’t feel like I was cut out for this world and wanted to escape. One way or another. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 10-24-year-olds in the United States and in 2009 ranked as the second leading cause of death among 15 to 34-year-old Canadians.   Despite these staggering statistics, it […]

10 Calming Strategies for When Tension Mounts

10 Calming Strategies for When Tension Mounts

You create your menu plans and a weekly rhythm and have a half-decent system for managing your finances. You work to stay organized and even have a strategy in place for self-care. But life throws you a couple of curve-balls and you miss some sleep and someone dies and Revenue Canada audits you. And the tension mounts. Here are 10 CALMING strategies I use to keep focused on WHO and HOW I want to be in the world *this post contains referral links 1. I aim to get quality sleep When […]

I Am an Aspiring ‘Good-Enoughist’

I Am an Aspiring ‘Good-Enoughist’

Inside: Experience and a tenacious spirit have taught me that life does not have to be perfect to be beautiful. That I do not have to be perfect to be beautiful. To not allow perfect to be the enemy of good. I can choose good enough. This post contains referral links. I am a recovering perfectionist and “an aspiring good-enoughist.” Not that I ever actually thought I was perfect, but I always felt I ought to be and was painfully aware of all the ways in which I never measured up. In […]