Why Comparison is Not Just Damaging but Dangerous

Why Comparison is Not Just Damaging but Dangerous

Inside: Comparison tells you that you’re not good enough. The way you are is bad. It’s destructive and soul-destroying. And it is a liar. Comparison is at the root of much of our discomfort, distraction, and dissatisfaction. It pulls us out of being present to our lives and into our heads, worrying about what others are up to, what they might think of us, how we wish life was or how we think it ought to be. It leaves us feeling lacking, like we’re missing out, or perpetually behind. Comparison […]

One of the Biggest Struggles of My Life

One of the Biggest Struggles of My Life

Inside: Perfectionism can drown us. It’s not all on us. We don’t control everything and everyone, no matter how much we care or love or how hard we work. One of the biggest struggles of my life is releasing my grip on needing, desperately needing, life to be orderly, tidy, safe. I spent my life wanting to be good – and realizing I could never be “good enough.” The thing I cared most about in this whole world was to be a good mom – a really good mom. And […]

Life is Short: Make Space for What You Truly Want and Need

Life is Short: Make Space for What You Truly Want and Need

Inside: In just one heartbeat life can change forever so I choose to live each day as though it could be my last. I declutter my life to make space for what I truly want and need. Despite the imperfection, grief, and messiness of it all, I love my life and family. But loss reminds me every time I walk through it that life is far shorter than we often realize. In one breath or one heartbeat, life can change forever. I want to live each day on purpose. I […]

Be The Change: A Message From My Mother’s Heart

Be The Change: A Message From My Mother’s Heart

Inside: We have to be the change. We have millions of small choices to make as we walk about our ordinary life that determine how we’ll help build a kinder, safer world for everyone. A Message From My Mother’s Heart on Mother’s Day weekend, 2020. We will never experience true freedom while we deny people their humanity (paraphrase). -Sterling K. Brown My heart hurts. How is it that we still live in a world where a young black man is gunned down while going about his ordinary life? This is […]

I Make Space for Freedom with Every Exhale

I Make Space for Freedom with Every Exhale

Life calls me over and over again to loosen my grip, release, exhale, make space for the essential and let go of all the rest. I don’t want this. What I WANT is for life to feel easy and allow me to follow all my shiny ideas, to say yes to far more like book deals and business products and making more money and looking like I’ve got life figured out. Instead, my life feels like a journey of letting go of more and more until the truth of who […]

On Embracing Our Weird

On Embracing Our Weird

Being human is weird. On the one hand, I have always desperately longed for family, belonging, and acceptance. Yet there is a fire inside of me (thank you mama) that will not allow me to settle for status quo. I am wired to push, question, dig, wrestle, wish I could make life easier on myself, long for a voice, practice using my voice, hide, run, rest, start all over again. I don’t want to fit neat and tidy into someone else’s box. I don’t think YOU have to fit neat […]

10 Lessons I Want to Pass Down to My Daughters

10 Lessons I Want to Pass Down to My Daughters

10 Lessons I Want to Pass Down to my Daughters 1. Colour is beautiful. Diversity is beautiful and needed. 2. Strength can look like keeping yourself together as you overcome really hard stuff, it can look like living in integrity even when there are consequences, strength can also look like feeling afraid, needing help, loving yourself in all your messiness, and walking in your gifting with confidence. 3. Your job is not to make anyone else (even your parents) comfortable. Your job is not to bow to status quo, jump […]