A Journey to Freedom or How to Become Real


Inside: There is a deep, inextricable connection between truth-telling and unshackled living. We cannot know freedom without being real. And freedom is, largely (NOT solely), an inside job. This post contains referral links.

I decided the single most subversive, revolutionary thing I could do was to show up for my life and not be ashamed. — Anne Lamott

My intuition or inner voice is telling me to allow this season of my life to be less about to-do’s or study and more about listening in to myself. It’s inviting me to loosen my grip and allow my personal journey to freedom or unshackled living, be rooted in freedom itself.

(By the way, the working title of my book-to-be is Unshackled!)

As I thought about this topic yesterday, what bubbled up was a word poem of sorts that reflects some of the hope, longing, and resistance I feel around the topic of freedom.

As you read, allow yourself to feel or connect with each word.

Notice what comes up for you – does a particular word make you flinch, or feel shame, or does it excite you, or make you curious? Where does this land in your body? Do specific stories or possibilities emerge about how “unshackled living” might look, sound, or feel in your life? Notice this and don’t be quick to chase it away because you feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, or judge it foolish or impossible.

A Journey to Freedom

Desire, pleasure, permission, hunger, neediness, worthiness
Passion, curiosity, relationship, communion, strength, anger, envy, wildness
Authority, equality, empowerment, intuition, self-trust, equity, safety, joyful liberation
Shame, rejection, fear, inner judgment, bondage, addiction, power, control
Intimacy, sexuality, listening in, vulnerability, self-touch, loving our bodies, tending
Self-care, soul-care, using our voice, asking for what we need or want, owning our stories and loosening our grip, life unshackled
Transformation, transition, becoming anew, our calendars reflect our core beliefs
Be still, self-compassion, tell the truth.


My mantra for my 49th birthday year is “Tell the Truth,” and it strikes me more clearly than ever before, the deep, inextricable connection between truth-telling and unshackled living.

We cannot know freedom without being real.

And freedom is, largely (NOT solely), an inside job.

I suspect when most people envision a life of freedom, it mostly looks neat and tidy, shiny, orderly, all wrapped up with a big, bright bow. I suspect this is how I used to imagine it too.

But what if REAL FREEDOM, in actuality, feels much more like messiness, adventure, risk-taking, stretching, questioning, fighting, releasing, allowing, receiving, savouring, and trusting?

Or maybe that’s just my own desire speaking up again.

Writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie says, “We teach girls shame (…) Girls grow up to be women who cannot see they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think, and they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form.”

(You can listen to Chimamanda’s TED Talk or read her book, We Should All Be Feminists)

To live in pretense means denying yourself freedom and what Poet John O’Donohue calls (and what I desire) “an awakened and full life.”

I want a messy, incredibly imperfect, beautiful, passionate, purposeful, delicious life.

I want to be REAL.

What do YOU want?

My inner wisdom has always been present and articulate though her voice was often drowned out by the noise of “Shadow-Krista”: my mean Inner Critic and her uber-anxious side-kick Fear. When our worrying and reasoning brains are quieted, there’s room for our inner voice – some might call this spirit, true-self, intuition, (what do you call it?) – to speak words of life and hope and liberty.

This work is deeply personal for each of us and involves honest questioning and the vulnerability and bravery to listen to our own responses.

Less heeding other people’s voices, watching what others are up to, or dutifully adding to our to-do lists in exchange for more inner work, reflection, yummy conversations, or soul-searching.

Less grasping for certainty and more willingness to live the questions.

To find freedom, we must say yes to living imperfectly – on purpose.

Preorder The Journey to Freedom Mini-course $37

This mini-course is an invitation to get to know and trust yourself a little better and take another step toward freedom or unshackled living.

If you’re looking for more personalized group support and connection, you can join me inside the Brave & Beautiful Community in January.

Let’s dive on in and may we each tell the truth about what we want and need.

Krista xo

*The Journey to Freedom mini-course is a three-week+ digital course that includes a PDF of core content, divided into weekly work, relevant worksheets, three pre-recorded videos to support your weekly work and a pre-recorded guest interview to support your exploration of the topic. Preorders will be delivered to your inbox on Nov 20th and the course will move to full price at that time.


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