Inside: It is so easy to get caught up in what others are doing or who we think we ought to be. It’s easy to feel caught in the tension of competing desires. This is a great way to live a life of quiet desperation. You need to know what you want MOST of all if you’re to get off the hamster wheel and stay off.
He has built up a life of comfort and ease: college funds, a big house, money in the bank. And he is so unhappy. He has a dream but feels like a fool – a “real man” would take the practical route. He’s afraid to tell his wife the truth about what he wants most. But he cannot bear another 20 years walking in someone else’s path.
She has multiple degrees and the student loans to prove it but sobs as she tells me the truth: all she really wants is to come home and raise her babies. She knows what she wants but is afraid of what everyone else will think. She is so tired of living this facade.
(Thousands of people from different corners of the world reached out to me to share their stories after reading and feeling seen and heard in this post)
Here’s the key, the one thing you need to get off the hamster wheel: You need to know what YOU want most in this world.
It’s so easy to get caught up in other people’s dreams or ideas of what you “should” do with your life. It can feel scary realizing that you’ve changed your mind about what you want or need and it’s hard and messy work, but worthwhile work, to tell the whole truth and change the trajectory of your life mid-stream.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. ~Steve Jobs
When you know what you want most, life won’t become magically easy, but you’ll walk with greater confidence, calm and clarity.
But what if you aren’t yet certain what it is you most desire out of life? What if you feel stuck trying to figure this all out?
Is it other people’s accolades or acceptance that you want most or is it a life aligned with your primary dreams and values that is most important to you?
Will you be content at the end of your days having been really wealthy and well-known, to have hustled your way to “success”, even if you were desperately yearning for something altogether different?
Are you ready to sift through all the noise and your competing desires to find clarity about what you want to create with the life you’ve been handed?
Don’t spend your whole life going through the motions, joyless, or miserable if you have any power of choice. Will you have the courage to follow your heart and intuition? Below are five tips to help you know what you want out of life — or at least get started.
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