Your Life in Progress: Self Care

Your Life in Progress: Self Care

This is the first guest post in a series called “Your Life in Progress.” In this series we will hear from other women like you and I – women who are learning to love and care for themselves well. They are taking risks, making mistakes, trying new things and letting others go, sometimes struggling, but ultimately living beautiful, gentle lives. I’ve spent the past week delighted and honored that Krista asked me to write a guest post about self care on her wonderful blog. I’ve also spent the week wondering what to write! Self care […]

Beauty Comes in All Colors, Shapes & Sizes

Beauty Comes in All Colors, Shapes & Sizes

I come from a colorful family. Colorful in more ways than one! A big, sometimes boisterous, opinionated, stubborn, emotional family. I was gifted with not only 7 biological siblings but 4 adopted* ones. We are of varied ethnicity and as my siblings and I marry and grow families of our own, we have blossomed into an even greater mosaic of personalities and nationalities. It is beautiful. We discuss race and racial bias a fair bit in our household. We have experienced some ugliness and feel the undercurrent of fear and distrust as […]

Just Breathe

Just Breathe

When the world is spinning quickly and you’re doing your best to keep up but always feel that little bit behind. Just breathe. Expand your belly. Pause. Exhale. When your muscles are tight and you feel frustrated, wound up, ready to snap. Unfurl your body, widen your stance and stretch your arms out behind you to open up your chest. And breathe. Pause. Exhale. When you have witnessed the suffering of someone you love and helped bury them deep in the soil. And your soul feels like it is being rent in […]

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if I all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between. Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that? The world is such a noisy place. Loud, haranguing voices lecturing me to hustle, to improve, build, strive, yearn, acquire, compete, and grasp for more. For bigger and better. Sacrifice sleep for productivity. Strive for excellence. Go big or go home. Have a huge impact in the world. Make your life count. But what if I just don’t have […]

If You Are a Fat Woman You Deserve to Eat Too

If You Are a Fat Woman You Deserve to Eat Too

If you are a fat woman, you have a right to feed your body well. To sit down for proper, nourishing meals several times a day and take your time eating them. To savor each bite and chew and look like you are enjoying your food. To eat in public in broad daylight rather than hiding in your vehicle or bedroom, late at night. If you are a fat woman, you have a right to indulge in luscious treats. Preferably involving dark chocolate. To lick your fingers off after eating them. To prepare yourself […]

3 Tips for Calmer Relationships

3 Tips for Calmer Relationships

Quality relationships take work. Marriages where partners are unwilling to mature and learn new ways of communicating will have a hard time thriving or even surviving. We may find that we can boss compliant kids around when they are little (not recommending this) but as they grow up these old patterns of communicating or relating need to go if we desire healthy, mutually respectful relationships. Even in our best and easiest friendships there may come a time when feelings get hurt or we need to work through an emotionally-charged issue. So relationships take […]

When You Get Off Track … Get Back to Basics

When You Get Off Track … Get Back to Basics

Maybe you’ve had a few sleepless nights, or job layoffs all around you are stressing you out, or your work-family-rest balance has evaporated into thin air, and you find yourself cranky, anxious or tired out. You are not feeling how you want to but this isn’t the time for a dig-deep life overhaul. Get back to basics. Sometimes all we need is to return to a set of tried-and-true ‘rules’ that support us in feeling clearer, emotionally calmer, and more energized. But we also need to track these behaviors for a time […]

10 Ways to Maintain Peace Through the Holidays

10 Ways to Maintain Peace Through the Holidays

We all know that Christmas (or the Holiday Season) is the highlight of the year for some and a season of emotional pain, debt, or drudgery for others. This partly depends on personality, partly on challenging life circumstances. Much, I’d argue, on personal choice. I am all about living with purpose, health, and JOY all year round and over the holidays this equates to staying within my budget, keeping things simple but meaningful, and protecting my health. When I speak about health I am referring to emotional and physical health, in particular, but also taking into […]