I Am an Aspiring ‘Good-Enoughist’

I Am an Aspiring ‘Good-Enoughist’

I am a recovering perfectionist and “an aspiring good-enoughist”*. Not that I ever actually thought I was perfect, but I always felt I ought to be and was painfully aware of all the ways in which I never measured up. In university, for example, there were many instances when I tried to take a zero on an exam or assignment because I felt ill-prepared or that my work was substandard. Thank goodness for amazing profs who counselled me to try anyways (of all outrageous notions), that any mark was better than zero. Yikes! Fortunately, I […]

Self Care for a New School Year

Self Care for a New School Year

Like many of you, I am sure, I adore the fall. The changing colors, promise of pumpkin-everything, perfect weather for wearing ‘cardis’, scarves AND flipflops.  As an ISFJ I also enjoy the return to more predictable routine and getting everyone and everything organized for a new school year. At the same time, anxiety and overwhelm can easily creep in during this season of transition as I shoulder responsibility for my family’s physical and emotional well-being. Self care can go out the window. I have one child in elementary (homeschooling), one in high-school, and one returning to […]

On Finding Your Voice

On Finding Your Voice

I love to hear people’s stories. I enjoy discussing and sharing ideas (no small talk, please) and I have always wrestled with a deep-seated, almost painful, need to be heard and understood. To have a voice. But I struggled with speaking up, potentially rocking the boat, learning to speak authentically. It has taken over two decades of work in my marriage, even, to learn and practice vulnerability, to trust that those people who truly love me will not reject me just because we disagree, or argue, or see the world differently. But finding your voice, and learning to use […]