Who’s The Boss: Using the 5 W’s to Shift Your Thoughts as a Powerful Act of Self-Care

Who’s The Boss: Using the 5 W’s to Shift Your Thoughts as a Powerful Act of Self-Care

It was not until I was 40, I think, that I really understood that I can choose my thoughts. That I am powerful and strong and capable enough to shift my thoughts, to “take them captive,” to wrangle them into submission. That I am the boss of my thoughts. I love being the boss. I know I am not alone in this. Learning to be aware of our thoughts and to then to direct them to healthier places is foundational to living with purpose, health, and joy. There really is […]

Sometimes Life Sucks and You Choose Joy Anyway

Sometimes Life Sucks and You Choose Joy Anyway

Inside: We can decide, that whether life is easy breezy or downright horrible to choose joy and wear it like a garment. Here are 7 big and small ways to practice choosing joy. This is real life. Yet another sewer backup. Another friend in trouble. More financial stressors. A child going through a difficult time. Something’s up in your body and it hurts. Dealing with disingenuous people. Ugh. Sometimes life sucks and you choose joy anyway. Should we wait until life is calm and perfectly predictable to live with joy? Do […]

Permission to Be Less Than Great

Permission to Be Less Than Great

One of the all-time most significant, wonderful shifts in my life happened the moment I decided I was good enough. Less than great. Imperfect. A little broken even perhaps. But also beautiful, strong, courageous, compassionate and determined. I decided that I am less than great and I like myself. All of me.   The act of giving myself permission to simply show up and be less than great broke the chains that had bound me for years. Heavy, twisted, tightly woven ropes of misery that held me back from laughing freely, from […]

To The Woman Who Wants to Die Today: Joy Will Come

To The Woman Who Wants to Die Today: Joy Will Come

I was so young but wanted to leave. Already weary. No fight in me. Is that how you feel? Weary? So incredibly tired of the battle that is against you? I have hated myself. Wished I could be different. Compared myself to others, always lacking. Always. I knew that I was weak. That I didn’t have it in me to push through. Didn’t believe life would ever be better. Easier. Can you relate at all to that? I tried you know, to leave. And it didn’t work. So I decided […]

5 Steps to Support Yourself as You Quit an Engrained Habit

5 Steps to Support Yourself as You Quit an Engrained Habit

This post is not intended to boss you around – as in insist you should quit sugar, wine or anything else you enjoy. If you are healthy and happy then I am delighted for you! However, if you are at a place in your life where a sugar, refined carb, wine, nicotine, caffeine, drug or junk food habit is no longer serving you, then this post of 5 ways to support yourself when you’re doing the hard work to quit “that habit” may very well be of use. It is not a comprehensive list of everything that could […]

Today Is Enough

Today Is Enough

I barely slept last night. My youngest had a horrible stomach ache and squished in with my husband and me. We tossed and turned, as much as three people are able in a creaky double bed, and then all efforts at rest ended when she began throwing up around 7 am. We are on a work-holiday in beautiful Banff but instead of eating at the vegan restaurant I scoped out yesterday and taking my girls to the climbing wall, we are camped out in a smelly hotel room while my husband attends his work conference. Fortunately, we are able […]