There is More Goodness and Beauty to Come My Way

There is More Goodness and Beauty to Come My Way

Inside: Letting go of what was to make space for what will be is one of the ways I practice trusting that there is yet more goodness and beauty to come. We are afraid to let go for different reasons. For one daughter of mine, her eclectic collection of books helps inform her identity. My husband, on the other hand, grew up in poverty and fear of lack can compel him to gather and save up. I find myself afraid to let go because I struggle to trust that there is […]

What Happens When You Decide You’re Good Enough

What Happens When You Decide You’re Good Enough

Inside: it’s time to start living like you’re already good enough. You don’t have to be smarter, prettier, or different from who you are. You can be a quiet world changer. There have been a few bleak seasons in my 46 years, starting at a young age, when I wanted to opt out of life. Disappear quietly. I knew I could never keep up or measure up and that I didn’t have what it takes. What I hadn’t learned yet or not fully was that I do not have to bend […]

How to Overcome Fear

How to Overcome Fear

Inside: You can embrace that you are strength and struggle and it is good. You can be afraid and messy and still show up fully to life. Here are some of the ways I overcome fear. This post contains referral links for books I recommend. My anxiety has been spiking lately again. I always need to be vigilant to protect my mental health over fall and winter but the last time I felt warning signs like this was two years ago. That time I asked for help unheard over and over […]

Draw a Line in the Sand

Draw a Line in the Sand

Inside: Every single decision to draw a line in the sand has altered the course of my life. It isn’t that life became miraculously easy but that I changed how I see. I remember the day, almost like it was yesterday. I decided to live. I had tried three times to kill myself and after this time failed, I felt like a loser. I couldn’t even do this right. But I was also tired. I was tired of trying and failing. So I decided to live. I didn’t know how I […]

The Happiness Formula: Having the Courage to do More of What You Like and Less of What You Don’t

The Happiness Formula: Having the Courage to do More of What You Like and Less of What You Don’t

Inside: The happiness formula is pretty simple: Do more of what you like and less of what you don’t. Craft a life of purpose and intention around what really matters…to you. This is a guest post by Jay Harrington of Life and Whim. At a recent dinner party with friends, much of the conversation focused on an adventurous trip around the world taken by one of the couples. Historic temples, exotic dining, beautiful beaches, different cultures…it sounded amazing. But it was definitely not for me. I get stressed out and […]

How You See Changes Everything: Mindset Really Matters

How You See Changes Everything: Mindset Really Matters

Mindset is the window through which you view the world, yourself, and your experiences. It is formed of your core beliefs and has a massive influence on how you think, behave, and walk through life. Mindset matters.   A positive view of aging will add an average 8 years to your life,  encourage you to engage in more health-promoting behaviors and enjoy the journey far more. If you believe that purposeful treats are a joyful aspect of life you will look forward to them and feel a heightened sense of fullness and pleasure compared to if […]

What if You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?

What if You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?

Inside: The crazy, ridiculous, unhealthy truth about comparison is that it strips us of color, demolishes creativity, and lulls us into a false sense of security. But we can push back against comparison and model deeply rooted self-awareness and self-compassion and delight in each other without needing to BE each other. Comparison is a masterful storyteller. Supremely skilled at his craft. The stories he spins are fanciful and ridiculous because we never know the full truth of someone else’s life and, therefore, measure ourselves against an illusion. Comparison is the […]

I Joyfully Decluttered These 5 Things to Boost Happiness

I Joyfully Decluttered These 5 Things to Boost Happiness

We have two lives: the one we learn with and the life we live after that. —Bernard Malamud My 40’s have undoubtedly been the hardest and best years of my life so far. I have grieved, walked through pain, moved kids to college, learned to rest. I’ve learned to love myself in earnest and show up through fear, I’ve healed and done hard things, put down deeper roots. It has been a season of learning to let go of what no longer serves. While I am a slow & simple advocate, […]