Draw a Line in the Sand

Draw a Line in the Sand

Inside: Every single decision to draw a line in the sand has altered the course of my life. It isn’t that life became miraculously easy but that I changed how I see. I remember the day, almost like it was yesterday. I decided to live. I had tried three times to kill myself and after this time failed, I felt like a loser. I couldn’t even do this right. But I was also tired. I was tired of trying and failing. So I decided to live. I didn’t know how I […]

This is KEY to Crafting the Life You Want

This is KEY to Crafting the Life You Want

Inside: If you truly want something you must show up and do the work. Small step by step. This is key to crafting the life you want. Do the work. Keep trying. Get your hands dirty. Do all or something. Take imperfect action. Build a growth mindset. Ask for help if you need it. Learn to sit with discomfort. Take two steps forward, one step back. Do it scared and aware there is much you don’t know. Pick yourself up should you fall. Stay out of comparison. But do the work. […]

What Getting Back into the Swimming Pool is Teaching Me About Slow Living & Self Compassion

What Getting Back into the Swimming Pool is Teaching Me About Slow Living & Self Compassion

Inside: I have found that living a life in progress means an ebb and flow of stepping out into the unknown – of progress and adventure, of becoming and stretching – and then finding my way home again. What getting back into the swimming pool is teaching me about slow-living and self-compassion. I have recently started swimming again after years of longing. Getting back into the pool feels a little like coming home. Yesterday as I drove, alone, to the city with ample time and space to think, I reflected […]

5 Simple but Effective Practices to Lift Your Mood Up

5 Simple but Effective Practices to Lift Your Mood Up

Inside: 5 practices to help you lift your mood up once again. We all experience low mood though some people seem to struggle more with this than others. It is so important to remember that you are worthy of love and acceptance in spite of your struggle and that you are worth fighting for! Truth time: sometimes you find yourself in the valley or feeling low (again) and not only do you wonder if you’re the only one (you’re not) but you need a reminder that you can take purposeful […]

Change Comes Softly

Change Comes Softly

Change comes softly. We gathered in the hospital room, taking our turns at his side. Whispering goodbyes that were wholly insufficient. And then he was gone. But it had been a year and a half of prognosis and treatment, of driving back and forth never knowing if this time would be the last I got to sit with him, hoping and needing to somehow absorb every last bit of life wisdom he had to spare. Before he left. There was not enough time and more than we were initially given. […]

Fear Is Not The Enemy

Fear Is Not The Enemy

Inside: Fear can be a bully but she is not my real enemy. The real enemy is my failure to acknowledge that I always get to choose my response. I woke up crying again last night. I dreamed that I was pregnant with my fourth child at the same time that I learned my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I would have to let her go – again. In the 15 years since she left, I’ve dreamed of saying a heart-wrenching goodbye to her countless times. No matter how many […]

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

Inside: At 18 I decided to live. At 33 I decided to love myself. At 46 I decided to enjoy the journey. Deciding to live isn’t just about no more suicide attempts. It’s not just about getting free of addictive or numbing behavior. Deciding to live is also about showing up each day awake and aware, willing to taste what comes your way: the joy, the anxiety, the exasperation, the delight; the wins, the struggle, the sunshine, and long nights. It means slowing down and noticing the gifts of each ordinary […]

Living Slow and Simple On a Meandering Path

Living Slow and Simple On a Meandering Path

I’m hard-wired for slow and simple. Partly by nature, partly for self-protection – this is how I’ve known to survive with a highly sensitive spirit and a tendency toward anxiety – I’ve made conscious decisions from childhood to guard white space in my life and keep things simple. I’ve chosen a slow path. This is not to say that I’ve never fallen into the trap of perfectionism, performance or people-pleasing, nor that my life has been without seasons of struggle where I felt so far beyond overwhelmed that I couldn’t […]