Holding Your Breath: When Your Child Dies

Holding Your Breath: When Your Child Dies

TW: suicide, depression, grief I’ve started an art scholarship in my son Jairus’ name: all proceeds from my Winter Mindfulness Journal go to the scholarship. xo I’m choosing to process some of my grief out loud. First, it is helping me when I feel like I’ll explode with rage or pain. Second, maybe it’ll help another parent feel less alone. This is a very personal journey. Please click away if reading about someone else’s loss – and particulary the topic of suicide – will be triggering for you right now. ******** […]

Ordinary Magic

Ordinary Magic

Inside: I think magic comes in the ordinary – for those willing to see. Do you want more space or permission to pause and notice the ordinary magic of your life? The streets are black apart from the meager light cast by the streetlamps. But this is more than enough light to illuminate the sparkle of the snowflakes as they begin to fall. You sense magic in the air. You throw on a tuque and warm mitts, lace up fuzzy boots, and head out for an impromptu night-time stroll. You […]

On Holding Space for Ourselves

On Holding Space for Ourselves

I was in a bad car accident yesterday and by all accounts should not have walked away spirit and body bruised but whole and very much alive. It’s hard to type. Both wrists and arms hurt when I use them. But I process in writing so I think this is the kindest thing I can do for myself this morning. One person’s choice almost left my children parentless in the span of one heartbeat. Just one. That’s all it takes. But here I am. Very much awake. I feel. I […]

Why It’s Time to Stop Waiting for Everything to be Okay

Why It’s Time to Stop Waiting for Everything to be Okay

Inside: Stop waiting for easy or perfect – life is messy but you are strong and brave enough to walk through each challenge or obstacle you face. This a guest post by Angie Schultz of The Becoming Place. Is everything going to be okay? How often have you said those words? Most of us have repeated some version of them many times, whether to ourselves or others. The predictable response: Everything will be okay, is meant to provide reassurance and hope. But those words can ring empty, even as you […]

You Can Find Your Way to Brave

You Can Find Your Way to Brave

Inside: I say yes to all of life and this includes saying yes to the soul-stretching and messy, get-your-hands-dirty kind of work required for showing up fully to life in every season, and in process I learn that I am brave. When I keep my eyes on my own path and give myself permission to play, try, explore, say yes to things that draw me without attachment to outcome, I am happy. When I hold space for others to be messy and imperfect and doing their best, and I hold […]

How I Simplify and Leverage the Strengths of Social Media

How I Simplify and Leverage the Strengths of Social Media

Inside: Social media is a tool with both perks and potential risks – but it is what we make of it. We can learn to leverage its strengths and let go of the rest. Inside, I share 5 benefits of social media to my life and the 5 primary ways I simplify its use to keep it in it’s place. This post contains some referral links. I’m grateful for social media. As a strong introvert who loves solitude and working from home, chewing on and discussing ideas, and walking out […]

How to Bumble Your Way into Beauty (in 10 Simple Steps)

How to Bumble Your Way into Beauty (in 10 Simple Steps)

Inside: You don’t have to be perfect or to even know exactly where you’re going to build a beautiful, joyful, purposeful life. You can bumble your way into beauty. Maybe life isn’t quite as complicated as we’ve thought it was. And maybe finding our way to a life of purpose, joy, and beauty is more readily attainable than we’ve believed. How to bumble your way into beauty   Step one: Struggle with anxiety and hide a lot. Daydream about writing or sharing your mission and message but never actually take […]

You Don’t Have to Be Fine

You Don’t Have to Be Fine

Inside: you are the expert on your life and walking through grief or trauma, or other hard seasons of life, is not a race. We do it in our own time, and our own way, and it’s OK to not be fine. It’s OK to not be fine. When someone asks the inevitable, rote, “how are you?” it’s OK to opt out. When it feels like friends or acquaintances think you should be better now, over your grief, through the storm and dry and steady on the other side, it’s […]