You Don’t Have to Be Fine

You Don’t Have to Be Fine

Inside: you are the expert on your life and walking through grief or trauma, or other hard seasons of life, is not a race. We do it in our own time, and our own way, and it’s OK to not be fine. It’s OK to not be fine. When someone asks the inevitable, rote, “how are you?” it’s OK to opt out. When it feels like friends or acquaintances think you should be better now, over your grief, through the storm and dry and steady on the other side, it’s […]

48 Happy Things

48 Happy Things

Inside: I’m turning 48 and each year as I approach my birthday I pause to reflect and redirect. This year I chose to craft a list of happy things that I want to acknowledge and express gratitude for. This post contains some referral links. I’m turning 48 tomorrow. Birthdays are a lovely time for self-reflection. A time to reflect and redirect. Three years ago during a visit to Montréal, I wrote this: 45 Important Things I’ve Learned In My 45 Years Two years ago as I neared my birthday I […]

I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

Inside: I like myself. Liking who we are requires a one-time choice and daily practice. Here are some ways to practice. I like myself. The full, messy, truth of who I am. I’m boring. Ordinary. One might even say, mediocre. I love time alone and sometimes feel lonely. I long for deep connection but am not that great at friendship. A simple life makes me happy, I’m stubborn and crave order, I’m not ambitious but can be really hard on myself. I say what I mean, procrastinate and wrestle with […]

Are These Thoughts Keeping You From a Purposeful Life?

Are These Thoughts Keeping You From a Purposeful Life?

Inside: These 12 lies keep many people stuck and hold them back from building a happy and purposeful life. Don’t let them stop you. Most mornings I wake up drippy with gratitude and delight for this imperfect and beautiful life of mine. I can hardly believe how fortunate I am to connect with women around the world, have space to putter and read, a family to love, and opportunity to use my gifts to encourage and teach on a daily basis. But not that long ago I lived stuck. Afraid […]

The Kind of Person I Want to Be

The Kind of Person I Want to Be

Inside: In a world that can feel scary and harsh I want to be the kind of person who keeps believing in better. Who doesn’t give up and who keeps on fighting, who isn’t too busy to lift up others. I often feel weak or afraid and like I have little to offer, but I want to be the kind of person who shows up anyway. I want to be the kind of person who listens well. I want to listen far more than I speak. And when I don’t […]

It’s Not Too Late to Shift Course and Build a Life You Actually Want

It’s Not Too Late to Shift Course and Build a Life You Actually Want

Inside: It is so easy to get caught up in what others are doing or who we think we ought to be. It’s easy to feel caught in the tension of competing desires. This is a great way to live a life of quiet desperation. You need to know what you want MOST of all if you’re to get off the hamster wheel and stay off. He has built up a life of comfort and ease: college funds, a big house, money in the bank. And he is so unhappy. […]

Living a Life of Purpose on the Mountaintop or in the Valley

Living a Life of Purpose on the Mountaintop or in the Valley

Inside: Whether on the mountaintop or in a valley, we can live a life of purpose. One moment at a time. Here are 5 tenets for living a life of purpose. I put in a great deal of energy thinking through my direction and primary goals for the new year. I spent many hours in honest reflection, life management binder and worksheets strewn about me, working to identify where I could cull and simplify and work smarter not harder. I felt purposeful and excited about what lay ahead. And then, […]

The Joy and Delight of an Unbalanced Life

The Joy and Delight of an Unbalanced Life

Inside: Living an unbalanced life means embracing ebb and flow and the delightful truth that building a joyful life does not require perfection. I didn’t know in my 20s that much of my pain and anxiety was rooted in perfectionism and never feeling good enough. I didn’t understand in my 30s that staying up too late and rarely resting as I tried to organize, plan, and balance my life perfectly was an attempt to feel safe in the world. Little did I know that one day in my 40s I’d […]