Permission to Be Less Than Great

Permission to Be Less Than Great

One of the all-time most significant, wonderful shifts in my life happened the moment I decided I was good enough. Less than great. Imperfect. A little broken even perhaps. But also beautiful, strong, courageous, compassionate and determined. I decided that I am less than great and I like myself. All of me.   The act of giving myself permission to simply show up and be less than great broke the chains that had bound me for years. Heavy, twisted, tightly woven ropes of misery that held me back from laughing freely, from […]

7 Reasons I’m Breaking Up With Wine

7 Reasons I’m Breaking Up With Wine

I am breaking up with wine again. At least for 6 months, possibly forever. I can’t commit right now. I awoke early this morning knowing this is the day. But the truth is, over the past 5 years that I have been drinking any alcohol again, I have known many times that it was a bad idea for me. Though I have journeyed far toward health and wholeness, my old addictive personality is still there, lurking, delighted that I opened this door again.   At 40 my husband and I began the practice of dating each […]

45 Important Things I’ve Learned In My 45 Years

45 Important Things I’ve Learned In My 45 Years

I turned 45 today. Feels weird writing that. I actually like getting older, though; I am a far more contented person now than even five years ago. Through a lovely turn of events, I was offered the opportunity to housesit for a friend in Montréal this week which feels like an amazing way to mark the transition from the first half of my life to the next. Or at least that is how I think of it… the midway mark. Neither of my parents made it even close to 90 but […]

Soul Sisters or Coming Home

Soul Sisters or Coming Home

I was visiting the local library of my small town one summer day, seven years ago. Nothing out of the ordinary. But inside I spotted an unfamiliar woman and her family. She was bald. Later I told my husband that I bet she was a homeschooler. There was just something about her and her bald head and men’s khaki shorts and Birkenstocks. I liked her. I didn’t know her but I liked her. But I was too shy to say much (these days I’d go straight up to her and ask for her life story). I […]

My Red Tent

My Red Tent

Inside: My Red Tent is the fourth guest post in a series called “Your Life in Progress.” In this series, we will hear from other women like you and me – women who are learning to love and care for themselves well. They are taking risks, making mistakes, trying new things and letting others go, sometimes struggling, but ultimately living beautiful, gentle lives. There was a time in ancient cultures that gave birth to a meeting, or gathering place for women known as the “red tent.”   In some cultures, this was […]

Learning to Live the Questions in Times of Transition

Learning to Live the Questions in Times of Transition

It’s easy to become distracted or discouraged, forget truths we once knew, or begin doubting ourselves and the path we are on. But sometimes life (and I believe, God) uses events and people, a word fitly spoken, and even books that come at just the right moment, with a beautiful and awe-inspiring synchronicity, to help us return to a place of anchor and clear direction. To smooth the way in times of transition. Awhile back, I wrote this post and meant it. The response was amazing and humbling as so many people […]

Joyful Living in a Stressed Out World

Joyful Living in a Stressed Out World

On Monday (part 1) we took an introductory look at anxiety and how pervasive an issue it is in our society. Today, I would like to share an overarching framework that has helped move me from stress, anxiety, and depression to greater calm and mind-body-soul peace. This list can help with joyful living. I am struggling a lot with posting this, actually, for fear of 1) either being too vague and unhelpful or 2) perpetuating anxiety or overwhelm in some of you. Honestly, this is the benefit of working 1:1 or in a small group setting with a coach or […]

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if I all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between. Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that? The world is such a noisy place. Loud, haranguing voices lecturing me to hustle, to improve, build, strive, yearn, acquire, compete, and grasp for more. For bigger and better. Sacrifice sleep for productivity. Strive for excellence. Go big or go home. Have a huge impact in the world. Make your life count. But what if I just don’t have […]