Walking Each Other Home: 19 Gifts of this Year as I Walked My Son Home

Walking Each Other Home: 19 Gifts of this Year as I Walked My Son Home

Walking each other home is a privilege. Here are 19 gifts I’ve picked up as I walked alongside my son through the final year of his life. TW: suicide, depression, grief On a cold wintry night, just over a year ago, my son and I sobbed and argued together as he finally admitted the truth about his plan to die. As his mama, I already knew. I knew him better than any other human on this planet. I feel like I knew him in ways he did not know himself […]

The Kind of Person I Want to Be

The Kind of Person I Want to Be

Inside: In a world that can feel scary and harsh I want to be the kind of person who keeps believing in better. Who doesn’t give up and who keeps on fighting, who isn’t too busy to lift up others. I often feel weak or afraid and like I have little to offer, but I want to be the kind of person who shows up anyway. I want to be the kind of person who listens well. I want to listen far more than I speak. And when I don’t […]

5 Simple but Effective Practices to Lift Your Mood Up

5 Simple but Effective Practices to Lift Your Mood Up

Inside: 5 practices to help you lift your mood up once again. We all experience low mood though some people seem to struggle more with this than others. It is so important to remember that you are worthy of love and acceptance in spite of your struggle and that you are worth fighting for! Truth time: sometimes you find yourself in the valley or feeling low (again) and not only do you wonder if you’re the only one (you’re not) but you need a reminder that you can take purposeful […]

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

Inside: At 18 I decided to live. At 33 I decided to love myself. At 46 I decided to enjoy the journey. Deciding to live isn’t just about no more suicide attempts. It’s not just about getting free of addictive or numbing behavior. Deciding to live is also about showing up each day awake and aware, willing to taste what comes your way: the joy, the anxiety, the exasperation, the delight; the wins, the struggle, the sunshine, and long nights. It means slowing down and noticing the gifts of each ordinary […]

All Your Jagged Edges

All Your Jagged Edges

We brush up against each other and it hurts. It’s far easier to isolate. Run and hide or segregate. But I want to learn and hear your stories; check my judgments and preconceived beliefs and see you – a person just like me. With all your jagged edges. I’m bad at conflict and really just want peace. But peace is not the fruit of pretending all is well or refusing to acknowledge pain in you or myself. We are different, you and I. Yet so very much the same. We walk in different circles and […]

Kissed by Wisdom: Thoughts on Joyful Aging

Kissed by Wisdom: Thoughts on Joyful Aging

Joyful aging is not about losing self or even becoming a better version of self. I think it is a journey of becoming more fully yourself.  Kissed by wisdom. I see my body in a photo like she is not me. She has gained weight this past year and grown some new sparkly hair. I thought she was taller. I have often wished she would bend to fit your pretty mold. But she is faithful and her scars and dimples reflect some of the messy journey I am on. In […]

My Red Tent

My Red Tent

Inside: My Red Tent is the fourth guest post in a series called “Your Life in Progress.” In this series, we will hear from other women like you and me – women who are learning to love and care for themselves well. They are taking risks, making mistakes, trying new things and letting others go, sometimes struggling, but ultimately living beautiful, gentle lives. There was a time in ancient cultures that gave birth to a meeting, or gathering place for women known as the “red tent.”   In some cultures, this was […]