Why Comparison is Not Just Damaging but Dangerous

Why Comparison is Not Just Damaging but Dangerous

Inside: Comparison tells you that you’re not good enough. The way you are is bad. It’s destructive and soul-destroying. And it is a liar. Comparison is at the root of much of our discomfort, distraction, and dissatisfaction. It pulls us out of being present to our lives and into our heads, worrying about what others are up to, what they might think of us, how we wish life was or how we think it ought to be. It leaves us feeling lacking, like we’re missing out, or perpetually behind. Comparison […]

8 Affirming Books that Helped Me Love Life More

8 Affirming Books that Helped Me Love Life More

Inside: I’ve been changed by both fiction and non-fiction. I’m mesmerized by and so deeply grateful for writers who share their gifts with the world. Words often feel like breath to me – or maybe they teach me how to breathe. These 8 books have been kind companions over the past 7 years as I learned how to love myself and to love life more. This post contains referral links. My daughter laughs when she tells me she can always tell when I’m thoroughly enjoying a book. She finds me […]

7 Reasons Your Life is Cluttered & HOW to release the clutter

7 Reasons Your Life is Cluttered & HOW to release the clutter

Inside: clutter is any excess in life or emotional baggage we haul around that weighs us down, distracts from our purpose, or robs us of joy and mind-body-spirit health. 7 reasons your life is cluttered and what to do about it. My husband and I moved 9 times in the first 11 years that we were married. We became experts at taking apart our flat-pack IKEA furniture and often hauled load after load in laundry baskets rather than packing tidily in boxes. It was quicker this way. We were broke […]

What Happens When You Decide You’re Good Enough

What Happens When You Decide You’re Good Enough

Inside: it’s time to start living like you’re already good enough. You don’t have to be smarter, prettier, or different from who you are. You can be a quiet world changer. There have been a few bleak seasons in my 46 years, starting at a young age, when I wanted to opt out of life. Disappear quietly. I knew I could never keep up or measure up and that I didn’t have what it takes. What I hadn’t learned yet or not fully was that I do not have to bend […]

What if You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?

What if You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?

Inside: The crazy, ridiculous, unhealthy truth about comparison is that it strips us of colour, demolishes creativity, and lulls us into a false sense of security. But we can push back against comparison and model deeply rooted self-awareness and self-compassion and delight in each other without needing to BE each other. Comparison is a masterful storyteller. Supremely skilled at his craft. The stories he spins are fanciful and ridiculous because we never know the full truth of someone else’s life and, therefore, measure ourselves against an illusion. Comparison is the […]

Life is Messy: Stop Looking For Perfect and Embrace What Is

Life is Messy: Stop Looking For Perfect and Embrace What Is

Life is messy. We create weekly rhythms and chore charts, financial goal sheets and healthy menus that take into account everyone’s preferences. We do date nights and declutter and determinedly decline 80% of the invitations that come our way. All in the hopes of creating orderly, simple, tidy lives. And still, it’s all messy. We tip into discouragement, especially when we compare our lives to the celebrity blogger or simple living guru. We wonder what we’ve done wrong, what else we can let go of. Maybe if we move into a […]

Captivated With Purpose

Captivated With Purpose

Last night my 12 year old, in her fabulous unicorn onesie, and I went to an outdoor showing of Jurassic Park. We arrived a little too early and waited patiently as the giant screen was slowly blown up and more and more families excitedly gathered. An hour and a half later, with a knowing glance and quick exchange of words, we agreed that we were already peopling out. We gathered up the well-worn blanket, drove back home and I climbed into my PJ’s. We made our own stove top popcorn, […]