If You’re Tired of Struggling: You’re Not the Only One

If You’re Tired of Struggling: You’re Not the Only One

Inside: If you’re tired of struggling, if you see all your imperfection and life feels hard, you might need a reminder that you’re not alone. All of the women in this post have their own struggles and sometimes have trouble seeing all the amazing ways they shine. Be gentle with yourself today. You are tired of struggling. And you are not the only one who struggles. She trembles as we speak. The diagnosis is only part of the reason; her anxiety has built up over the years and now it is […]

Why You Need to Stop Trying to Be Perfect and Choose Good Enough

Why You Need to Stop Trying to Be Perfect and Choose Good Enough

Inside: Sometimes all our trying to be perfect- or our struggle with perfectionism – causes us to become unhinged. To fall apart. When we admit that we are not perfect, that we do not have to be, when we choose to love ourselves as we are and understand that our worth is not defined by others’ opinions, our ability to perform, or the size of jeans we wear, freedom begins to leak in to all the broken spaces of our lives. And healing begins. Do you hide behind a mask of perfectionism? To […]

To The Woman Who Wants to Die Today: Joy Will Come

To The Woman Who Wants to Die Today: Joy Will Come

I was so young but wanted to leave. Already weary. No fight in me. Is that how you feel? Weary? So incredibly tired of the battle that is against you? I have hated myself. Wished I could be different. Compared myself to others, always lacking. Always. I knew that I was weak. That I didn’t have it in me to push through. Didn’t believe life would ever be better. Easier. Can you relate at all to that? I tried you know, to leave. And it didn’t work. So I decided […]

5 Steps to Support Yourself as You Quit “That Habit”

5 Steps to Support Yourself as You Quit “That Habit”

This post is not intended to boss you around – as in insist you should quit sugar, wine or anything else you enjoy. If you are healthy and happy then I am delighted for you! However, if you are at a place in your life where a sugar, refined carb, wine, nicotine, caffeine, drug or junk food habit is no longer serving you, then this post of 5 ways to support yourself when you’re doing the hard work to quit “that habit” may very well be of use. It is not a comprehensive list of everything that could […]

7 Reasons I’m Breaking Up With Wine

7 Reasons I’m Breaking Up With Wine

I am breaking up with wine again. At least for 6 months, possibly forever. I can’t commit right now. I awoke early this morning knowing this is the day. But the truth is, over the past 5 years that I have been drinking any alcohol again, I have known many times that it was a bad idea for me. Though I have journeyed far toward health and wholeness, my old addictive personality is still there, lurking, delighted that I opened this door again.   At 40 my husband and I began the practice of dating each […]

A Journey to Freedom

A Journey to Freedom

My whole life I have pushed and fought for wholeness. For freedom: a sense that I am enough. Acceptable. Loveable as is. The belief that even if I am a little broken and fragile that I can still do this thing called life. I so clearly remember the day I realized I couldn’t try to kill myself again. I would have to find a way to live. But there have been many times since then that if someone had offered me a little blue pill to help me escape, I may just have taken them up on […]

I Wanted to Die: An Exploration of my Journey Through Depression

I Wanted to Die: An Exploration of my Journey Through Depression

I tried to kill myself three times between the ages of fourteen and eighteen. Nothing horrible had happened to me. My parents loved me and I was safe and provided for. But I didn’t want to exist – I didn’t feel like I was cut out for this world and wanted to escape. One way or another. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 10-24-year-olds in the United States and in 2009 ranked as the second leading cause of death among 15 to 34-year-old Canadians.   Despite these staggering statistics, it […]