For Valentine’s Day This Year Give Yourself The Gift of Discomfort

For Valentine’s Day This Year Give Yourself The Gift of Discomfort

We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time. ― Brené Brown, Rising Strong I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. It feels like one more arbitrary, commercialized holiday designed to make people either jump through hoops or feel like something essential is wrong with them and their life. Maybe I’m just not a romantic. But if you can’t imagine opting out, then what if for Valentine’s this year you give yourself the gift of discomfort?   What if, you make peace […]

Tomorrow Will Care For Itself

Tomorrow Will Care For Itself

“August has passed, and yet summer continues by force to grow days. They Sprout secretly between the chapters of the year, covertly included between its pages.” Jonathan Safran Foer What does summer mean to you and could we, or should we, as Thoreau suggested, “maintain a little bit of summer, even in the middle of winter?” Or is it instead true that embracing each season equally is the better course? For “what good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.” John Steinbeck Is […]

Three Wishes: A Legacy to my Daughters

Three Wishes: A Legacy to my Daughters

My 17 year old made this for me last year. My handwriting sits at the top, followed by my mom’s, followed by her mom’s. My girls are growing up. They haven’t had a grandma around to love and spoil them. To tell them stories of who I was as a little girl or to speak life into them when they struggle. They no longer have a great-grandma to tell stories of the way things used to be, to help put things into perspective, or to demonstrate what growing old with […]

How The Four Tendencies Personality Profile Made Me a Better Parent

How The Four Tendencies Personality Profile Made Me a Better Parent

I think it was the moment when she was three years old and she crossed her arms, widened her stance, and stared me dead on that I knew I was in trouble. This tiny person with chubby cheeks and chocolatey almond-shaped eyes was not impressed by my angry eyebrows, my threats of consequences or even my raised voice. None of the authoritarian parenting tactics that had worked with her big brother swayed her in the least. In fact, they made things significantly worse. I had backed her into a corner […]