Ordinary Magic

Ordinary Magic

Inside: I think magic comes in the ordinary – for those willing to see. Do you want more space or permission to pause and notice the ordinary magic of your life? The streets are black apart from the meager light cast by the streetlamps. But this is more than enough light to illuminate the sparkle of the snowflakes as they begin to fall. You sense magic in the air. You throw on a tuque and warm mitts, lace up fuzzy boots, and head out for an impromptu night-time stroll. You […]

How to Bumble Your Way into Beauty (in 10 Simple Steps)

How to Bumble Your Way into Beauty (in 10 Simple Steps)

Inside: You don’t have to be perfect or to even know exactly where you’re going to build a beautiful, joyful, purposeful life. You can bumble your way into beauty. Maybe life isn’t quite as complicated as we’ve thought it was. And maybe finding our way to a life of purpose, joy, and beauty is more readily attainable than we’ve believed. How to bumble your way into beauty   Step one: Struggle with anxiety and hide a lot. Daydream about writing or sharing your mission and message but never actually take […]

I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

Inside: I like myself. Liking who we are requires a one-time choice and daily practice. Here are some ways to practice. I like myself. The full, messy, truth of who I am. I’m boring. Ordinary. One might even say, mediocre. I love time alone and sometimes feel lonely. I long for deep connection but am not that great at friendship. A simple life makes me happy, I’m stubborn and crave order, I’m not ambitious but can be really hard on myself. I say what I mean, procrastinate and wrestle with […]

The Kind of Person I Want to Be

The Kind of Person I Want to Be

Inside: In a world that can feel scary and harsh I want to be the kind of person who keeps believing in better. Who doesn’t give up and who keeps on fighting, who isn’t too busy to lift up others. I often feel weak or afraid and like I have little to offer, but I want to be the kind of person who shows up anyway. I want to be the kind of person who listens well. I want to listen far more than I speak. And when I don’t […]

The Joy and Delight of an Unbalanced Life

The Joy and Delight of an Unbalanced Life

Inside: Living an unbalanced life means embracing ebb and flow and the delightful truth that building a joyful life does not require perfection. I didn’t know in my 20s that much of my pain and anxiety was rooted in perfectionism and never feeling good enough. I didn’t understand in my 30s that staying up too late and rarely resting as I tried to organize, plan, and balance my life perfectly was an attempt to feel safe in the world. Little did I know that one day in my 40s I’d […]

How to Overcome Fear

How to Overcome Fear

Inside: You can embrace that you are strength and struggle and it is good. You can be afraid and messy and still show up fully to life. Here are some of the ways I overcome fear. This post contains referral links for books I recommend. My anxiety has been spiking lately again. I always need to be vigilant to protect my mental health over fall and winter but the last time I felt warning signs like this was two years ago. That time I asked for help unheard over and over […]

Draw a Line in the Sand

Draw a Line in the Sand

Inside: Every single decision to draw a line in the sand has altered the course of my life. It isn’t that life became miraculously easy but that I changed how I see. I remember the day, almost like it was yesterday. I decided to live. I had tried three times to kill myself and after this time failed, I felt like a loser. I couldn’t even do this right. But I was also tired. I was tired of trying and failing. So I decided to live. I didn’t know how I […]

What if You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?

What if You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?

Inside: The crazy, ridiculous, unhealthy truth about comparison is that it strips us of color, demolishes creativity, and lulls us into a false sense of security. But we can push back against comparison and model deeply rooted self-awareness and self-compassion and delight in each other without needing to BE each other. Comparison is a masterful storyteller. Supremely skilled at his craft. The stories he spins are fanciful and ridiculous because we never know the full truth of someone else’s life and, therefore, measure ourselves against an illusion. Comparison is the […]