If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion

If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion

Inside: If I could bottle up just one gift for you this year, it would be that of learning to walk in self-compassion. Here’s why. If I could give you one gift this year, it would be that of self-compassion. Self-compassion is fundamental to living with purpose, health, and joy, and for sustainable and meaningful growth. Self-compassion is also a key tool in learning to quiet the noise of comparison, perfectionism, and fear. Let me tell you how. According to Kristin Neff, associate professor in the University of Texas at […]

Why Feeling Stuck Might Actually Be a Happy Thing

Why Feeling Stuck Might Actually Be a Happy Thing

Inside: Feeling stuck is as beautiful a part of life as the times of flow and productivity. It’s a happy thing. It’s a call to do the work to get honest about what you want and need so you can get unstuck and move into alignment and purposeful action once again. I’ve provided 10 action steps and a load of practical resources to help you get unstuck. This post contains referral links. I launched excitedly into chatting about and writing this post. And then I got stuck. There are moments […]

Simple Living Tips for the Stressed Out or Recovering Perfectionist

Simple Living Tips for the Stressed Out or Recovering Perfectionist

Inside: Simple living tips for the stressed out, worn down, or recovering perfectionist so you can live with fewer “shoulds” and more freedom; less hustle, more curiosity; less jumping through hoops and more putting your feet up to read; reduced stress, more purposeful action; no trying to measure up so you can just do you and offer the work you love imperfectly and joyfully. For years I sought out kindred spirits or wisdom-filled guides for how to live an intentional but simple lifestyle in books and later the internet. If they […]

Change Comes Softly

Change Comes Softly

Change comes softly. We gathered in the hospital room, taking our turns at his side. Whispering goodbyes that were wholly insufficient. And then he was gone. But it had been a year and a half of prognosis and treatment, of driving back and forth never knowing if this time would be the last I got to sit with him, hoping and needing to somehow absorb every last bit of life wisdom he had to spare. Before he left. There was not enough time and more than we were initially given. […]

Just Choose All or Something

Just Choose All or Something

I’ve come to the conclusion that my message can be summed up in three simple phrases: You’re imperfect; Life is messy; Show up anyway. (I want to help you figure out how!) I love the clarity and simplicity of this. I care about each of us deciding to fight or crawl or question our way to freedom. Making peace with the messy truth that we are imperfect and gifted. That we struggle but we are not a failure. We bumble our way through life but we are worthy of compassion. Life […]

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

What Does It Mean to Decide to Live Each Day?

Inside: At 18 I decided to live. At 33 I decided to love myself. At 46 I decided to enjoy the journey. Deciding to live isn’t just about no more suicide attempts. It’s not just about getting free of addictive or numbing behavior. Deciding to live is also about showing up each day awake and aware, willing to taste what comes your way: the joy, the anxiety, the exasperation, the delight; the wins, the struggle, the sunshine, and long nights. It means slowing down and noticing the gifts of each ordinary […]