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If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion

Jan 6, 2020 2 Comments
If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion

Inside: If I could bottle up just one gift for you this year, it would be that of learning to walk in self-compassion. Here’s why. If I could give you one gift this year, it would be that of self-compassion. Self-compassion is fundamental to living with purpose, health, and joy, and for sustainable and meaningful growth. Self-compassion is also a key tool in learning to quiet the noise of comparison, perfectionism, and fear. Let me tell you how. According to Kristin Neff, associate professor in the University of Texas at […]

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Walking Each Other Home: 19 Gifts of this Year as I Walked My Son Home

Dec 31, 2019 30 Comments
Walking Each Other Home: 19 Gifts of this Year as I Walked My Son Home

Walking each other home is a privilege. Here are 19 gifts I’ve picked up as I walked alongside my son through the final year of his life. TW: suicide, depression, grief On a cold wintry night, just over a year ago, my son and I sobbed and argued together as he finally admitted the truth about his plan to die. As his mama, I already knew. I knew him better than any other human on this planet. I feel like I knew him in ways he did not know himself […]

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Why It’s Time to Stop Waiting for Everything to be Okay

Sep 6, 2019 Leave a Comment
Why It’s Time to Stop Waiting for Everything to be Okay

Inside: Stop waiting for easy or perfect – life is messy but you are strong and brave enough to walk through each challenge or obstacle you face. This a guest post by Angie Schultz of The Becoming Place. Is everything going to be okay? How often have you said those words? Most of us have repeated some version of them many times, whether to ourselves or others. The predictable response: Everything will be okay, is meant to provide reassurance and hope. But those words can ring empty, even as you […]

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You Can Find Your Way to Brave

Aug 30, 2019 2 Comments
You Can Find Your Way to Brave

Inside: I say yes to all of life and this includes saying yes to the soul-stretching and messy, get-your-hands-dirty kind of work required for showing up fully to life in every season, and in process I learn that I am brave. When I keep my eyes on my own path and give myself permission to play, try, explore, say yes to things that draw me without attachment to outcome, I am happy. When I hold space for others to be messy and imperfect and doing their best, and I hold […]

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It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are

Aug 10, 2019 11 Comments
It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are

Inside: Growth is messy and it takes courage to become who you really are. But doing this hard, stretching work leads to freedom and a sense of rootedness and calm. These three keys are essential to intentional, sustainable growth. As funny as it sounds, it can take decades for us to become who we really are. We’re called to sift through external and internal pressures and ideas about how we ought to be, push back against outdated messages about gender roles or familial patterns, accept the invitation to peel away […]

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How to Bumble Your Way into Beauty (in 10 Simple Steps)

Jul 17, 2019 9 Comments
How to Bumble Your Way into Beauty (in 10 Simple Steps)

Inside: You don’t have to be perfect or to even know exactly where you’re going to build a beautiful, joyful, purposeful life. You can bumble your way into beauty. Maybe life isn’t quite as complicated as we’ve thought it was. And maybe finding our way to a life of purpose, joy, and beauty is more readily attainable than we’ve believed. How to bumble your way into beauty   Step one: Struggle with anxiety and hide a lot. Daydream about writing or sharing your mission and message but never actually take […]

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I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

Jun 15, 2019 11 Comments
I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

Inside: I like myself. Liking who we are requires a one-time choice and daily practice. Here are some ways to practice. I like myself. The full, messy, truth of who I am. I’m boring. Ordinary. One might even say, mediocre. I love time alone and sometimes feel lonely. I long for deep connection but am not that great at friendship. A simple life makes me happy, I’m stubborn and crave order, I’m not ambitious but can be really hard on myself. I say what I mean, procrastinate and wrestle with […]

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When You Don’t Know What To Do Just Do The Next Right Thing

Jun 6, 2019 7 Comments
When You Don’t Know What To Do Just Do The Next Right Thing

Inside: Sometimes life is so messy, so painful, or so scary and we don’t see our way forward. When you don’t know what to do, take one small step and just do the next right thing. When you’re hurting or in a dark and scary space, just do the next right thing. When you aren’t sure how you’ll recover or come up for air again, and you can’t see your way forward, just do the next right thing in front of you. Breathe. Hug your partner. Laugh with your child. […]

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