Draw a Line in the Sand

Draw a Line in the Sand

Inside: Every single decision to draw a line in the sand has altered the course of my life. It isn’t that life became miraculously easy but that I changed how I see. I remember the day, almost like it was yesterday. I decided to live. I had tried three times to kill myself and after this time failed, I felt like a loser. I couldn’t even do this right. But I was also tired. I was tired of trying and failing. So I decided to live. I didn’t know how I […]

You Are Not a Failure: 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up

You Are Not a Failure: 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up

We all struggle and experience failure. All of us. No matter how good someone looks on the outside, how perfect their life appears, they carry around their own self-doubts, their secrets or pain. Your therapist struggles, your pastor struggles, the strong and beautiful woman you see each morning as you drop your kids off to school, she struggles. It is a simple truth of life. And maybe it is also true that some of us struggle more than others – or work harder just to show up and do this […]

We Can Run But We Can’t Hide

We Can Run But We Can’t Hide

Inside: Whenever I’m on the cusp of change, resistance shows up and I have the urge to run again. But we can’t outrun ourselves. This post contains affiliate links. The winding drive back into the Peace valley is beautiful. I have to keep my eyes on the lane ahead of me and the construction that takes up part of the narrow winding road, though, so I am unable to fully take in the view or look over, across the river that cuts through the town, to try and spot the […]

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

I have been crying a lot these past days. I haven’t been quite feeling myself all year. It started with me giving up one of my last crutches. Wine took the edge off my anxiety and allowed me to feel more at ease in social situations, including family gatherings. After giving up wine, my weight started creeping up consistently. My anxiety started amping up months ago and then rose to a place it hadn’t been in years. A very uncomfortable place. I persisted with all the quality mood-supporting nutrition and supplements and the mindset […]

Finding Space for my Soul to Rest

Finding Space for my Soul to Rest

She reaches her hand out to me several times as we watch together, needing a touch of comfort. The film is based on the true story of young Ugandan girl who becomes a chess champion in the middle of poverty and struggle. “It hurts so much,” my 11-year-old says and I understand. She is not seeing the one who overcame but the many still mired in pain, poverty, hopelessness. I suspect my youngest daughter might be a highly sensitive soul just like her mama. According to Heather Dominick*, 20% of […]

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Inside: Don’t allow fear to hold you captive. You don’t have to believe every thought that drops into your mind. You can learn to challenge fear. I have allowed fear to shackle me in many ways over my 45 years. But I am grateful for this stubbornness within me, a fire passed along from my mama I think, that has propelled me to slowly, sometimes painfully, forge ahead; which calls me push back against status quo, through fear, into possibility. It is hard to live a simple but purposeful life unless we learn to challenge fear. […]

There Are Worse Things Than FAT

There Are Worse Things Than FAT

Believe it or not, there are worse things than fat. Mean and judgemental, for instance; or self-loathing. Hating yourself. Filled up to the brim and spilling over with anxiety and fear; or how about lacking in joy or purpose; unable to identify what lights you up or sparks your creative juices. Unsure what gifts you bring to the world and afraid to even ask. To never laugh; and never give yourself permission to cry. There are so many worse things than being fat although our world might tell you otherwise. How […]

Learn To Listen ~ To Yourself

Learn To Listen ~ To Yourself

One of the greatest gifts anyone can offer me is to make me feel truly heard. Like they care what I have to say and how I feel, no judgment or trying to fix me. The gift of a safe space to hash things out and express what is on my mind and heart so that I can heal and gain clarity and have the courage to move forward. I shared how this might have helped me when, as a teen, I wanted to die. I don’t need you to tell […]