How To Be Still When The World is Spinning Wildly

How To Be Still When The World is Spinning Wildly

Before my eyes fully open, I feel the call to hurry. The whisper of not enough time, too far behind, how will I ever keep up. I hide under the covers a while longer, procrastinating, ruminating, unwilling to spend another day spinning wildly like the frenetic, unhappy, world around me. I want to be still. Lying in bed, I remind myself of the truth that I can choose my own thoughts and how to move through the world. I take responsibility for what I can and sometimes this means ignoring […]

10 Truths To Help You Live Like You Love Yourself

10 Truths To Help You Live Like You Love Yourself

One day, shortly after the birth of my third child, I made the decision to love myself. I was done trying to mold my body or beautiful, quirky self into a tiny, ill-fitting mold. I’ve been showing up and practicing this decision every single day for the past 12 years. Living like we love ourselves, speaking to ourselves with kindness, laying down judgment, nourishing ourselves like we deserve good things, none of this happens without deliberate, conscious choice. We walk it out, day by day. We struggle, we hide, we step […]

Kissed by Wisdom: Thoughts on Joyful Aging

Kissed by Wisdom: Thoughts on Joyful Aging

Joyful aging is not about losing self or even becoming a better version of self. I think it is a journey of becoming more fully yourself.  Kissed by wisdom. I see my body in a photo like she is not me. She has gained weight this past year and grown some new sparkly hair. I thought she was taller. I have often wished she would bend to fit your pretty mold. But she is faithful and her scars and dimples reflect some of the messy journey I am on. In […]

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

If You Find Yourself Back in the Valley Again

I have been crying a lot these past days. I haven’t been quite feeling myself all year. It started with me giving up one of my last crutches. Wine took the edge off my anxiety and allowed me to feel more at ease in social situations, including family gatherings. After giving up wine, my weight started creeping up consistently. My anxiety started amping up months ago and then rose to a place it hadn’t been in years. A very uncomfortable place. I persisted with all the quality mood-supporting nutrition and supplements and the mindset […]

Learning to Listen for a Life of Purpose, Health & JOY

Learning to Listen for a Life of Purpose, Health & JOY

I knew within two weeks of meeting my husband in Québec that I would marry him. It was not a logical choice – he was a Francophone on a student visa from West Africa and didn’t speak any English; I spoke limited high school French. He was a carnivorous athlete; I a vegan book lover – about as unathletic as they come. But there was an unshakeable, unmistakable knowing within me. We married a year later and this summer will mark 23 years of sharing an imperfect but beautiful life together. Maybe the right choice cannot […]

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Inside: Don’t allow fear to hold you captive. You don’t have to believe every thought that drops into your mind. You can learn to challenge fear. I have allowed fear to shackle me in many ways over my 45 years. But I am grateful for this stubbornness within me, a fire passed along from my mama I think, that has propelled me to slowly, sometimes painfully, forge ahead; which calls me push back against status quo, through fear, into possibility. It is hard to live a simple but purposeful life unless we learn to challenge fear. […]

What Do You Want or Need?

What Do You Want or Need?

What do you want? She feels unheard and unsupported. She knows she is loved and that her life is amazing, and yet there is this undercurrent of anxiety or sense of something not quite being right that plagues her. She has voiced concern and expressed that she needs a little more help around the house and feels frustrated that he is not giving her “permission” to let go of more. But maybe she needs to give herself permission. And maybe, the real root issue is that she has not yet come to […]

There Are Worse Things Than FAT

There Are Worse Things Than FAT

Believe it or not, there are worse things than fat. Mean and judgemental, for instance; or self-loathing. Hating yourself. Filled up to the brim and spilling over with anxiety and fear; or how about lacking in joy or purpose; unable to identify what lights you up or sparks your creative juices. Unsure what gifts you bring to the world and afraid to even ask. To never laugh; and never give yourself permission to cry. There are so many worse things than being fat although our world might tell you otherwise. How […]