Why Comparison is Not Just Damaging but Dangerous

Why Comparison is Not Just Damaging but Dangerous

Inside: Comparison tells you that you’re not good enough. The way you are is bad. It’s destructive and soul-destroying. And it is a liar. Comparison is at the root of much of our discomfort, distraction, and dissatisfaction. It pulls us out of being present to our lives and into our heads, worrying about what others are up to, what they might think of us, how we wish life was or how we think it ought to be. It leaves us feeling lacking, like we’re missing out, or perpetually behind. Comparison […]

One of the Biggest Struggles of My Life

One of the Biggest Struggles of My Life

Inside: Perfectionism can drown us. It’s not all on us. We don’t control everything and everyone, no matter how much we care or love or how hard we work. One of the biggest struggles of my life is releasing my grip on needing, desperately needing, life to be orderly, tidy, safe. I spent my life wanting to be good – and realizing I could never be “good enough.” The thing I cared most about in this whole world was to be a good mom – a really good mom. And […]

It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are

It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are

Inside: Growth is messy and it takes courage to become who you really are. But doing this hard, stretching work leads to freedom and a sense of rootedness and calm. These three keys are essential to intentional, sustainable growth. As funny as it sounds, it can take decades for us to become who we really are. We’re called to sift through external and internal pressures and ideas about how we ought to be, push back against outdated messages about gender roles or familial patterns, accept the invitation to peel away […]

Walking Each Other Home: 19 Gifts of this Year as I Walked My Son Home

Walking Each Other Home: 19 Gifts of this Year as I Walked My Son Home

Walking each other home is a privilege. Here are 19 gifts I’ve picked up as I walked alongside my son through the final year of his life. TW: suicide, depression, grief On a cold wintry night, just over a year ago, my son and I sobbed and argued together as he finally admitted the truth about his plan to die. As his mama, I already knew. I knew him better than any other human on this planet. I feel like I knew him in ways he did not know himself […]

Why I (Joyfully) Eat Frozen Pizza on Friday Nights

Why I (Joyfully) Eat Frozen Pizza on Friday Nights

Inside: the thing that has made the biggest positive impact on my mental health – on my capacity to live with joy – is choosing to embrace imperfection and “good enough.” I choose to live imperfectly – On purpose. Why I (joyfully) eat frozen pizza on Friday nights… Because last spring as the apple trees began to bloom, I wanted to die. I had been living with heightened anxiety again for months and asked for help, unheard. And then the anxiety left suddenly and I plummeted into despair. I wept […]

Are These Thoughts Keeping You From a Purposeful Life?

Are These Thoughts Keeping You From a Purposeful Life?

Inside: These 12 lies keep many people stuck and hold them back from building a happy and purposeful life. Don’t let them stop you. Most mornings I wake up drippy with gratitude and delight for this imperfect and beautiful life of mine. I can hardly believe how fortunate I am to connect with women around the world, have space to putter and read, a family to love, and opportunity to use my gifts to encourage and teach on a daily basis. But not that long ago I lived stuck. Afraid […]

8 Affirming Books that Helped Me Love Life More

8 Affirming Books that Helped Me Love Life More

Inside: I’ve been changed by both fiction and non-fiction. I’m mesmerized by and so deeply grateful for writers who share their gifts with the world. Words often feel like breath to me – or maybe they teach me how to breathe. These 8 books have been kind companions over the past 7 years as I learned how to love myself and to love life more. This post contains referral links. My daughter laughs when she tells me she can always tell when I’m thoroughly enjoying a book. She finds me […]