Life is Messy: Stop Looking For Perfect and Embrace What Is

Life is Messy: Stop Looking For Perfect and Embrace What Is

Life is messy. We create weekly rhythms and chore charts, financial goal sheets and healthy menus that take into account everyone’s preferences. We do date nights and declutter and determinedly decline 80% of the invitations that come our way. All in the hopes of creating orderly, simple, tidy lives. And still, it’s all messy. We tip into discouragement, especially when we compare our lives to the celebrity blogger or simple living guru. We wonder what we’ve done wrong, what else we can let go of. Maybe if we move into a […]

Even Nobodies Have Gifts to Offer the World

Even Nobodies Have Gifts to Offer the World

Inside: I am a struggler, a nobody. But I am also BRAVE and I am BEAUTIFUL. And I am so stubborn and will not quit. And even nobodies have gifts to offer the world. The other morning I woke up afraid. Before I had really even begun my day, I opened my eyes and there she was. Catching in my throat, preventing me from pulling in a deep breath. I reluctantly said hello to Fear; she is a guest who likes to sneak in unbidden and overstay her welcome. I […]

Tame the Chaos: Shift From Surviving to Thriving

Tame the Chaos: Shift From Surviving to Thriving

Do you live in a regular state of overwhelm or anxiety? Do you wrestle hard with procrastination or perfectionism? If so, you are definitely not alone. Budgeting, planning, decluttering, maintaining decent order – these have never been a problem for me. What I have struggled with was a sense of chronic overwhelm that would tip into OCD-like habits, procrastination, perfectionism, and horrible anxiety. I needed to keep my world perfectly ordered to feel safe. But no matter how hard I worked or how much sleep I sacrificed to maintain a well-managed […]

You Are Not a Failure: 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up

You Are Not a Failure: 7 Ways to Pick Yourself Back Up

We all struggle and experience failure. All of us. No matter how good someone looks on the outside, how perfect their life appears, they carry around their own self-doubts, their secrets or pain. Your therapist struggles, your pastor struggles, the strong and beautiful woman you see each morning as you drop your kids off to school, she struggles. It is a simple truth of life. And maybe it is also true that some of us struggle more than others – or work harder just to show up and do this […]

The Road to HAPPY Begins With This

The Road to HAPPY Begins With This

I read somewhere that improv is the freedom and space to hear things. That stopped me in my tracks for a little bit. Isn’t that something we all want or at least need? Freedom and space to hear things? It got me reflecting on how much of my life has been all about controlling, managing, planning; doing my best to erect impenetrable walls of security around me and my family, believing that when I finally got things under control I would feel safe. Happy. I didn’t know that trying to […]

Just Show Up

Just Show Up

Inside: When my inner critic is loud and life feels unsettled or hard, instead of giving up or falling apart or throwing a tantrum I just show up. Lately, I’ve been feeling insecure and unsettled. Since writing about being back in the valley again I’ve definitely been feeling better but still not walking light and easy. I feel like I keep making mistakes, or one little life issue after another keeps stealing my peace. And I have to march over to enemy territory and take it right back again. Instead […]

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Does FEAR Hold You Captive?

Inside: Don’t allow fear to hold you captive. You don’t have to believe every thought that drops into your mind. You can learn to challenge fear. I have allowed fear to shackle me in many ways over my 45 years. But I am grateful for this stubbornness within me, a fire passed along from my mama I think, that has propelled me to slowly, sometimes painfully, forge ahead; which calls me push back against status quo, through fear, into possibility. It is hard to live a simple but purposeful life unless we learn to challenge fear. […]

3 Purposeful Questions I Ask Myself Each Night

3 Purposeful Questions I Ask Myself Each Night

I am a big fan of rhythm and routine – a natural part of my ISFJ, Enneagram 1 personality type. Not rigid and inflexible as in past years when I lived like the slave rather than the master of my agenda. But a gentle structure that ebbs and flows as needed and generally helps me live purposefully, clearly aligned to my primary goals and values. An important part of my daily rhythm is to begin and end my days with simple routines designed to support mind, body and spirit health. Nothing fancy and occasionally I […]