Why You Need to Stop Trying to Be Perfect and Choose Good Enough

Why You Need to Stop Trying to Be Perfect and Choose Good Enough

Inside: Sometimes all our trying to be perfect- or our struggle with perfectionism – causes us to become unhinged. To fall apart. When we admit that we are not perfect, that we do not have to be, when we choose to love ourselves as we are and understand that our worth is not defined by others’ opinions, our ability to perform, or the size of jeans we wear, freedom begins to leak in to all the broken spaces of our lives. And healing begins. Do you hide behind a mask of perfectionism? To […]

Permission to Be Less Than Great

Permission to Be Less Than Great

One of the all-time most significant, wonderful shifts in my life happened the moment I decided I was good enough. Less than great. Imperfect. A little broken even perhaps. But also beautiful, strong, courageous, compassionate and determined. I decided that I am less than great and I like myself. All of me.   The act of giving myself permission to simply show up and be less than great broke the chains that had bound me for years. Heavy, twisted, tightly woven ropes of misery that held me back from laughing freely, from […]

To The Woman Who Wants to Die Today: Joy Will Come

To The Woman Who Wants to Die Today: Joy Will Come

I was so young but wanted to leave. Already weary. No fight in me. Is that how you feel? Weary? So incredibly tired of the battle that is against you? I have hated myself. Wished I could be different. Compared myself to others, always lacking. Always. I knew that I was weak. That I didn’t have it in me to push through. Didn’t believe life would ever be better. Easier. Can you relate at all to that? I tried you know, to leave. And it didn’t work. So I decided […]

7 Reasons I’m Breaking Up With Wine

7 Reasons I’m Breaking Up With Wine

I am breaking up with wine again. At least for 6 months, possibly forever. I can’t commit right now. I awoke early this morning knowing this is the day. But the truth is, over the past 5 years that I have been drinking any alcohol again, I have known many times that it was a bad idea for me. Though I have journeyed far toward health and wholeness, my old addictive personality is still there, lurking, delighted that I opened this door again.   At 40 my husband and I began the practice of dating each […]

Parenting Lessons From My Mom

Parenting Lessons From My Mom

As a child, I would awaken sometimes in the middle of the night to the hum of the sewing machine. I don’t know if my mom couldn’t sleep or if she was driven, out of necessity, to complete a project for one of us kids. The night before my brother, Jesse, was due she must have stayed up super late to complete my 13th birthday gift. I awoke in the morning, my mom already gone to the hospital, to find a colorful button-down shirt and matching flouncy skirt on a hanger, neatly […]

A Journey to Freedom

A Journey to Freedom

My whole life I have pushed and fought for wholeness. For freedom: a sense that I am enough. Acceptable. Loveable as is. The belief that even if I am a little broken and fragile that I can still do this thing called life. I so clearly remember the day I realized I couldn’t try to kill myself again. I would have to find a way to live. But there have been many times since then that if someone had offered me a little blue pill to help me escape, I may just have taken them up on […]

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?

What if I all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between. Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that? The world is such a noisy place. Loud, haranguing voices lecturing me to hustle, to improve, build, strive, yearn, acquire, compete, and grasp for more. For bigger and better. Sacrifice sleep for productivity. Strive for excellence. Go big or go home. Have a huge impact in the world. Make your life count. But what if I just don’t have […]