Holding Your Breath: When Your Child Dies

Holding Your Breath: When Your Child Dies

TW: suicide, depression, grief I’ve started an art scholarship in my son Jairus’ name: all proceeds from my Winter Mindfulness Journal go to the scholarship. xo I’m choosing to process some of my grief out loud. First, it is helping me when I feel like I’ll explode with rage or pain. Second, maybe it’ll help another parent feel less alone. This is a very personal journey. Please click away if reading about someone else’s loss – and particulary the topic of suicide – will be triggering for you right now. ******** […]

Ordinary Magic

Ordinary Magic

Inside: I think magic comes in the ordinary – for those willing to see. Do you want more space or permission to pause and notice the ordinary magic of your life? The streets are black apart from the meager light cast by the streetlamps. But this is more than enough light to illuminate the sparkle of the snowflakes as they begin to fall. You sense magic in the air. You throw on a tuque and warm mitts, lace up fuzzy boots, and head out for an impromptu night-time stroll. You […]

On Holding Space for Ourselves

On Holding Space for Ourselves

I was in a bad car accident yesterday and by all accounts should not have walked away spirit and body bruised but whole and very much alive. It’s hard to type. Both wrists and arms hurt when I use them. But I process in writing so I think this is the kindest thing I can do for myself this morning. One person’s choice almost left my children parentless in the span of one heartbeat. Just one. That’s all it takes. But here I am. Very much awake. I feel. I […]

It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are

It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are

Inside: Growth is messy and it takes courage to become who you really are. But doing this hard, stretching work leads to freedom and a sense of rootedness and calm. These three keys are essential to intentional, sustainable growth. As funny as it sounds, it can take decades for us to become who we really are. We’re called to sift through external and internal pressures and ideas about how we ought to be, push back against outdated messages about gender roles or familial patterns, accept the invitation to peel away […]

How I Simplify and Leverage the Strengths of Social Media

How I Simplify and Leverage the Strengths of Social Media

Inside: Social media is a tool with both perks and potential risks – but it is what we make of it. We can learn to leverage its strengths and let go of the rest. Inside, I share 5 benefits of social media to my life and the 5 primary ways I simplify its use to keep it in it’s place. This post contains some referral links. I’m grateful for social media. As a strong introvert who loves solitude and working from home, chewing on and discussing ideas, and walking out […]

7 Self-Care Practices for When Life Feels Painful

7 Self-Care Practices for When Life Feels Painful

Inside: Self-care is always important yet easily neglected. In painful seasons of life when it feels like we’re drowning it can feel incredibly hard to see our way forward. These 7 self-care practices help me show up when life is painful. The choice to keep living fully as we walk through painful or scary seasons of life, in which we feel like we’re drowning or having trouble seeing our way forward, requires tremendous courage. Fear often looms large in these seasons and it can require every ounce of strength and […]

I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

I Like Myself and Why I Think This is Essential

Inside: I like myself. Liking who we are requires a one-time choice and daily practice. Here are some ways to practice. I like myself. The full, messy, truth of who I am. I’m boring. Ordinary. One might even say, mediocre. I love time alone and sometimes feel lonely. I long for deep connection but am not that great at friendship. A simple life makes me happy, I’m stubborn and crave order, I’m not ambitious but can be really hard on myself. I say what I mean, procrastinate and wrestle with […]

When You Don’t Know What To Do Just Do The Next Right Thing

When You Don’t Know What To Do Just Do The Next Right Thing

Inside: Sometimes life is so messy, so painful, or so scary and we don’t see our way forward. When you don’t know what to do, take one small step and just do the next right thing. When you’re hurting or in a dark and scary space, just do the next right thing. When you aren’t sure how you’ll recover or come up for air again, and you can’t see your way forward, just do the next right thing in front of you. Breathe. Hug your partner. Laugh with your child. […]