I Wanted to Die: An Exploration of my Journey Through Depression

I Wanted to Die: An Exploration of my Journey Through Depression

I tried to kill myself three times between the ages of fourteen and eighteen. Nothing horrible had happened to me. My parents loved me and I was safe and provided for. But I didn’t want to exist – I didn’t feel like I was cut out for this world and wanted to escape. One way or another. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among 10-24-year-olds in the United States and in 2009 ranked as the second leading cause of death among 15 to 34-year-old Canadians.   Despite these staggering statistics, it […]

10 Calming Strategies for When Tension Mounts

10 Calming Strategies for When Tension Mounts

You create your menu plans and a weekly rhythm and have a half-decent system for managing your finances. You work to stay organized and even have a strategy in place for self-care. But life throws you a couple of curve-balls and you miss some sleep and someone dies and Revenue Canada audits you. And the tension mounts. Here are 10 CALMING strategies I use to keep focused on WHO and HOW I want to be in the world *this post contains referral links 1. I aim to get quality sleep When […]

I Am an Aspiring ‘Good-Enoughist’

I Am an Aspiring ‘Good-Enoughist’

Inside: Experience and a tenacious spirit have taught me that life does not have to be perfect to be beautiful. That I do not have to be perfect to be beautiful. To not allow perfect to be the enemy of good. I can choose good enough. This post contains referral links. I am a recovering perfectionist and “an aspiring good-enoughist.” Not that I ever actually thought I was perfect, but I always felt I ought to be and was painfully aware of all the ways in which I never measured up. In […]

Self Care for a New School Year

Self Care for a New School Year

Like many of you, I am sure, I adore the fall. The changing colors, promise of pumpkin-everything, perfect weather for wearing ‘cardis’, scarves AND flipflops.  As an ISFJ I also enjoy the return to more predictable routine and getting everyone and everything organized for a new school year. At the same time, anxiety and overwhelm can easily creep in during this season of transition as I shoulder responsibility for my family’s physical and emotional well-being. Self care can go out the window. I have one child in elementary (homeschooling), one in high-school, and one returning to […]

On Finding Your Voice

On Finding Your Voice

I love to hear people’s stories. I enjoy discussing and sharing ideas (no small talk, please) and I have always wrestled with a deep-seated, almost painful, need to be heard and understood. To have a voice. But I struggled with speaking up, potentially rocking the boat, learning to speak authentically. It has taken over two decades of work in my marriage, even, to learn and practice vulnerability, to trust that those people who truly love me will not reject me just because we disagree, or argue, or see the world differently. But finding your voice, and learning to use […]