7 Self-Care Practices for When Life Feels Painful

7 Self-Care Practices for When Life Feels Painful

Inside: Self-care is always important yet easily neglected. In painful seasons of life when it feels like we’re drowning it can feel incredibly hard to see our way forward. These 7 self-care practices help me show up when life is painful. The choice to keep living fully as we walk through painful or scary seasons of life, in which we feel like we’re drowning or having trouble seeing our way forward, requires tremendous courage. Fear often looms large in these seasons and it can require every ounce of strength and […]

8 Affirming Books that Helped Me Love Life More

8 Affirming Books that Helped Me Love Life More

Inside: I’ve been changed by both fiction and non-fiction. I’m mesmerized by and so deeply grateful for writers who share their gifts with the world. Words often feel like breath to me – or maybe they teach me how to breathe. These 8 books have been kind companions over the past 7 years as I learned how to love myself and to love life more. This post contains referral links. My daughter laughs when she tells me she can always tell when I’m thoroughly enjoying a book. She finds me […]

5 Powerful Strategies for a Joyful Midlife and Beyond

5 Powerful Strategies for a Joyful Midlife and Beyond

Inside: Growing older is a gift. Growing older joyfully is a choice.  Whether or not we experience a joyful life midlife and beyond is largely about personal belief and choice. This post contains referral links. Growing older is a gift. Growing older joyfully is a choice. Martha Beck writes “since our society equates happiness with youth, we often assume that sorrow, quiet desperation, and hopelessness go hand in hand with getting older. They don’t. Emotional pain or numbness are symptoms of living the wrong life, not a long life.” I happen […]

Why Feeling Stuck Might Actually Be a Happy Thing

Why Feeling Stuck Might Actually Be a Happy Thing

Inside: Feeling stuck is as beautiful a part of life as the times of flow and productivity. It’s a happy thing. It’s a call to do the work to get honest about what you want and need so you can get unstuck and move into alignment and purposeful action once again. I’ve provided 10 action steps and a load of practical resources to help you get unstuck. This post contains referral links. I launched excitedly into chatting about and writing this post. And then I got stuck. There are moments […]

For Valentine’s Day This Year Give Yourself The Gift of Discomfort

For Valentine’s Day This Year Give Yourself The Gift of Discomfort

We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time. ― Brené Brown, Rising Strong I’m not a fan of Valentine’s Day. It feels like one more arbitrary, commercialized holiday designed to make people either jump through hoops or feel like something essential is wrong with them and their life. Maybe I’m just not a romantic. But if you can’t imagine opting out, then what if for Valentine’s this year you give yourself the gift of discomfort?   What if, you make peace […]

Fear Is Not The Enemy

Fear Is Not The Enemy

Inside: Fear can be a bully but she is not my real enemy. The real enemy is my failure to acknowledge that I always get to choose my response. I woke up crying again last night. I dreamed that I was pregnant with my fourth child at the same time that I learned my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I would have to let her go – again. In the 15 years since she left, I’ve dreamed of saying a heart-wrenching goodbye to her countless times. No matter how many […]

All Your Jagged Edges

All Your Jagged Edges

We brush up against each other and it hurts. It’s far easier to isolate. Run and hide or segregate. But I want to learn and hear your stories; check my judgments and preconceived beliefs and see you – a person just like me. With all your jagged edges. I’m bad at conflict and really just want peace. But peace is not the fruit of pretending all is well or refusing to acknowledge pain in you or myself. We are different, you and I. Yet so very much the same. We walk in different circles and […]

10 Science-Based Self Care Tips for Fall & Winter

10 Science-Based Self Care Tips for Fall & Winter

The rain comes down, steady. I open my windows wide – breathing in deep the dregs of summer and anticipating, slightly anxious, the cold, dark months ahead. The changes come, slow and subtle, but my body feels them all the same. A little less light, a daub more grey. My right hand aches with cold some days though the temperature shift is slight. Since its replacement, my hip no longer plays the barometer as it has since childhood but my body feels cold to the bone and shivers in anticipation. […]