Inside: Become your own best friend. You do not have to live in judgment anymore – comparing yourself to others or trying to keep up or measure up. You do not have to live in shame simply because you’re human in a messy world. You can decide that you are enough.
One day, it feels like a lifetime ago now, I decided to like myself. I embraced my “good enough” and began learning to quiet the noise of perfectionism, comparison, and fear so that I could show up fully to this imperfect and beautiful life of mine.
I learned to forgive myself for all my struggle and messiness, learned to approve of who and how I am, to witness my gifting, and I realized that I am far stronger, braver and more resilient than I ever understood before.
Since then, I’ve put down strong, hardy roots of self-awareness and self-compassion and help my clients and community do this life-giving work too.
You do not have to live in judgment anymore – comparing yourself to others or trying to keep up or measure up. You do not have to live in shame simply because you’re human in a messy world.
You can become your own best friend and decide that you are enough.
Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.– Brené Brown
10 ARTICLES to offer encouragement as you become your own best friend
What If All I Want Is A Mediocre Life?
What if I all I want is a small, slow, simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in-between. Where calm lives. Read the full post here.
How to Know Yourself Better: 10 Ideas To Deepen Self-Awareness
Self-awareness helps us show up to work, relationships, to all of life — with integrity and confidence. These 10 ideas will help you get to know yourself better and deepen your roots of self-awareness and self-compassion. Read the full post here.
You Are Messy And Beautiful And You Are Enough
There is room for you here. You can honour your wiring and leverage your strengths, you don’t have to look like anyone else or know for sure where you’re heading. It is enough. Read the full post here.
Finally Deciding You’re Good Enough Can Quietly Change the World
Finally deciding I am good enough means instead of hiding I take personal responsibility and use my words and life to help build the world I want to live in. Read the full post here.
It Takes Courage To Become Who You Really Are
Growth is messy and it takes courage to become who you really are. But doing this hard, stretching work leads to freedom and a sense of rootedness and calm. Read the full post here.
Permission To Be Less Than Great
You must be the one to step out from under the mantle of comparison, shame, or perfectionism and offer who you are to the world. All the beautiful and the broken bits. Read the full post here.
What If You Simply Offer Who You (Really) Are?
Accept that you’re insanely cool. Or that you’re quirky or imperfect and terribly rough around the edges. But help build a world you want to live in. Offer your light. Read the full post here.
What If You Approach Growth From The Perspective That You’re OK?
There’s a world of difference between seeking growth from a place of feeling broken or messed up vs. stepping into growth from the perspective that you’re imperfect and OK. Read the full post here.
If I Could Bottle Up One Gift For You: On Self-Compassion
Self-compassion helps us see ourselves as messy and complex rather than broken, or in progress as opposed to bad or a failure. It makes room for joyful possibility. Read the full post here.
Are YOU A Highly Sensitive Person? WHY THIS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER
I was not bad, wrong, or broken– I was a highly sensitive soul working incredibly hard to find my way, without help, in a world that isn’t great at honouring diversity. Read the full post here.
RESOURCES TO HELP YOU WATER THE TRUTH THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH and you befriend yourself
Love Yourself Well Bundle: The Befriend Yourself, Self-Compassion, and Rooted & Resilient Mini-Courses – $127 USD
This material is offered to help you put down stronger roots of self-awareness and self-compassion so that you can take imperfect action toward showing up fully to the life in front of you and in a way that aligns with your core values and honours your wiring.
Befriend yourself mini-course – $57 USD
In this mini-course you’ll learn how to…
- Rate your current level of self-compassion and begin practicing self-compassion exercises.
- Get to know yourself more as a friend by using personality assessments and reflective exercises.
- Shift your pattern of self-talk and learn how to notice and examine the thoughts and the emotions tangled up in your ingrained patterns of behaviour.
- And more!
Learn more or purchase the course here.
INTERVIEWS TO HELP YOU become your own best friend
In this interview with the First Nations Cree mother-daughter team behind warrriorwomen.ca, we talk about Coming Home to Ourselves and the importance of identity & integration. I hope you enjoy the conversation. WATCH HERE.
I think you’ll also love my interview with Julie Bjelland on befriending ourselves as Highly Sensitive People (or HSP’s). WATCH HERE.