Inside: Don’t Wait to Feel “Fearless” – Say YES to Life by Learning to Show Up Through Fear
I write a whole lot about fear. This is because I spent much of my life mired in it – anxious, afraid, feeling like I didn’t have what it takes to survive in this world. A hefty part of my fear has always been tangled up in anxiety, depression, and perfectionism.
I feel no shame about experiencing fear – it’s simply a human emotion. Learning to tell the truth about what I feel has been a critical step toward healing and freedom for me.
There is no shame in experiencing fear – we are simply human in a messy world. For wholeness we need to identify and acknowledge our emotions and then move on through them to learn we have what it takes.
Perhaps, like me, you don’t identify with the folks that write about living “fearless” – instead, what I learned, what I still practice daily, is to show up through fear to build the life I want. I don’t have to wait until life feels fear-less, stress-free, or smooth sailing to show up fully to this imperfect and beautiful life of mine.
Neither do you.
We can be afraid and unsure and still show up. We can put down strong, hardy roots of self-awareness and self-compassion that remind us we aren’t required to have it all together in order to shine our light or do the work in the world to which we feel called. And we can build a healthy stress mindset to help rob fear of its power.
Showing up through fear – like all growth and becoming – requires both vision and practice. We build this muscle like any other. One stubborn step and then another.
The reason I’m still standing in life or that I’ve built a business I love is that I learned to not allow fear to be the boss of me. I’ve learned to tell the truth about the vision I have for my life and about my fear but also to quiet her voice and keep on building.
Don’t wait to feel “fearless” – say YES to life by learning to show up through fear.
Showing up through fear – like all growth and becoming – requires both vision and practice. We build this muscle like any other. One stubborn step and then another. We’re all simply practicing.
HERE ARE 10 POSTS I’VE WRITTEN THAT SPEAK TO showing up through FEAR.
It Takes Courage to Become Who You Really Are
I’ve uncovered 3 key ideas that keep me rooted and resilient and which help me grow strong and brave so that I can show up fully to this life of mine. Read the full article here.
How to Overcome Fear
You can embrace that you are strength and struggle and it is good. You can be afraid and messy and still show up fully to life. Here are some of the ways I overcome fear. Read the full article here.
Fear is Not the Enemy
Fear can be a bully but she is not my real enemy. The real enemy is my failure to acknowledge that I always get to choose my response. Read the full article here.
Draw a Line in the Sand
Every single decision to draw a line in the sand has altered the course of my life. It isn’t that life became miraculously easy but that I changed how I see. Read the full article here.
Show up Real and Afraid and Honest and Vulnerable
I’m pretty sure we’re all afraid – at least some of the time. And more often than not. Show up afraid. Afraid and vulnerable. Show up real and honest with yourself above all. Read the full article here.
Even Nobodies Have Gifts to Offer the World
The other morning I woke up afraid. I reluctantly said hello to Fear; she is a guest who likes to sneak in unbidden and overstay her welcome. Read the full article here.
Going Nose to Nose With Fear for an Uncluttered, Unshackled, UnBusy Life
I have never felt that I fit well in this noisy, competitive, frenetic world; fear told me that I didn’t have what it takes. And maybe many of us feel this way. Read the full post here.
Just Show Up
When my inner critic is loud and life feels unsettled or hard, instead of giving up or falling apart or throwing a tantrum I just show up. Read the full post here.
Tell The Truth
We don’t help each other when we pretend or gloss over the painful parts of life – we simply reinforce the myth that we should have it all figured out by now. Read the full post here.
Maybe You Are Brave
Choosing life when you don’t know how you’ll live and you feel alone and unheard. Choosing to love and who you are. Choosing not to quit. This is brave. Maybe you are brave. Read the full post here.
Show up Afraid: Self-Guided Course – $60 USD
An 8-module/ minimum 8-week course. Each module begins with two personal stories or short essays; these are meant to help you reflect on the topic at hand. Next, I provide ideas to help you put the lessons of the module into action – this includes the invitation to join a few purposeful challenges (a media fast, decluttering challenge, and naming a specific project or goal to show up to). Finally, you will find worksheets that you can print, and which will further support you in working through the content of each module.
Build a Right-Sized Life Mini-Course – $40 USD
Life Visioning can help you “live on purpose” and teach you how to translate your vision into short-term goals or intentions and then daily habits or micro-steps. I’ll invite you to practice tying any goals or intentions for your life to your mind-body-spirit intentions and overarching sense of purpose in this season and you will craft a weekly rhythm and some routines or daily rituals to ensure that how you spend your days is how you want to spend your life (a paraphrase from Annie Dillard). There’s plenty more – all of which I walk out in my own life and trust will help you build a greater sense of direction and confidence in your life.
Don’t wait to feel “fearless” or stress-free. Don’t wait until you no longer struggle, you feel good enough or on top of it all. You may spend your whole life waiting. A few members of the Brave & Beautiful Community join me for an informal chat about different ways fear shows up for us and how we’re all practicing learning to sit with the discomfort and then show up anyway.
Enjoy my interview with Dr. Whitney Dicterow – we talk about resilience and developing inner resourcefulness both of which help us show up through fear and challenging seasons: