Inside: You can learn to live with joy and purpose even if you feel afraid or struggle with anxiety and depression. You can learn to love yourself, to leverage your strengths (you have them!), and show up fully to your imperfect and beautiful life. You can learn to show up through fear – one stubborn, determined step at a time.
I write a whole lot about fear. This is because I spent much of my life mired in it – anxious, afraid, feeling like I didn’t have what it takes to survive in this world. A hefty part of my fear has always been tangled up in anxiety, depression, and perfectionism.
I feel no shame about experiencing fear – it’s simply a human emotion. Learning to tell the truth about what I feel has been a critical step toward healing and freedom for me.
Perhaps, like me, you don’t identify with the folks that write about living “fearless” – instead, what I learned, what I still practice daily, is to show up through fear to build the life I want. I don’t have to wait until life feels fear-less, stress-free, or smooth sailing to show up fully to this imperfect and beautiful life of mine.
Neither do you.
We can be afraid and unsure and still show up. We can put down strong, hardy roots of self-awareness and self-compassion that remind us we aren’t required to have it all together in order to shine our light or do the work in the world to which we feel called. And we can build a healthy stress mindset to help rob fear of its power.
Showing up through fear – like all growth and becoming – requires practice. We build this muscle like any other. One stubborn step and then another.
HERE ARE SOME (certainly not all) ARTICLES I’VE WRITTEN THAT SPEAK TO showing up through FEAR
How to Overcome Fear
You can embrace that you are strength and struggle and it is good. You can be afraid and messy and still show up fully to life. Here are some of the ways I overcome fear. Read the full article here.
Fear is Not the Enemy
Fear can be a bully but she is not my real enemy. The real enemy is my failure to acknowledge that I always get to choose my response. Read the full article here.
Does Fear Hold You Captive?
Don’t allow fear to hold you captive. You don’t have to believe every thought that drops into your mind. You can learn to challenge fear. Read the full article here.
Draw a Line in the Sand
Every single decision to draw a line in the sand has altered the course of my life. It isn’t that life became miraculously easy but that I changed how I see. Read the full article here.
Show up Real and Afraid and Honest and Vulnerable
I’m pretty sure we’re all afraid – at least some of the time. And more often than not. Show up afraid. Afraid and vulnerable. Show up real and honest with yourself above all. Read the full article here.
Even Nobodies Have Gifts to Offer the World
The other morning I woke up afraid. I reluctantly said hello to Fear; she is a guest who likes to sneak in unbidden and overstay her welcome. Read the full article here.
How You See Changes Everything: Mindset Matters
With practice you can rewire a lifetime pattern of thought and behavior to live happier and healthier. Mindset matters. Read the full post here.
I Joyfully Decluttered These 5 Things to Boost Happiness
My happiness is rooted in a sense of freedom, of living on purpose, and inner calm. My 40’s have been a season of deepening happiness as I let go of what no longer serves. Read the full post here.
Going Nose to Nose With Fear for an Uncluttered, Unshackled, UnBusy Life
I have never felt that I fit well in this noisy, competitive, frenetic world; fear told me that I didn’t have what it takes. And maybe many of us feel this way. Read the full post here.
Just Show Up
When my inner critic is loud and life feels unsettled or hard, instead of giving up or falling apart or throwing a tantrum I just show up. Read the full post here.
If You’re Tired of Struggling: You’re Not the Only One
If you’re tired of struggling, if you see all your imperfection and life feels hard, you might need a reminder that you’re not alone. Be gentle with yourself today. Read the full post here.
Hope is The Thing With Feathers
We think life is all or nothing. Straight up happiness or abject misery. The truth falls somewhere messy in between. Hope is the thing with feathers. Read the full post here.
On Feeling Small
Inside: There is so much more to life and this universe than I can make sense of. And it isn’t all my responsibility. The ocean scares and calms me. Both. Read the full post here.
Maybe You Are Brave
Choosing life when you don’t know how you’ll live and you feel alone and unheard. Choosing to love and who you are. Choosing not to quit. This is brave. Maybe you are brave. Read the full post here.
Now is a Perfect Time to Be Happy
I don’t need more stuff, better weather, a bigger budget or a smaller body, or to be any different from who I already am. Now is a perfect time to be happy. Read the full post here.
Show up Afraid: Self-Guided Course $59 USD
An 8-module/ minimum 8-week course. Each module begins with two personal stories or short essays; these are meant to help you reflect about the topic at hand. Next, I provide ideas to help you put the lessons of the module into action – this includes the invitation to join a few purposeful challenges (a media fast, decluttering challenge, and naming a specific project or goal to show up to). Finally, you will find worksheets that you can print, and which will further support you in working through the content of each module. (Sign up to my email list to hear about the next live class)